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Unread 03-29-2013, 04:50 PM   #1
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Default My pets really tie me down!

I have three...two rescued dogs and one kitty. I love them, and they really ARE a lot of company, but I'm also realizing how they limit my freedom. Shameful to admit, I know! I could travel a lot more if they didn't need me. When I ponder finding homes for them, I realize no one else would care for them as I do: making sure their medical needs are met, seeing that they are free of parasites like fleas and ticks, keeping them in a safe environment where they are not tied up!, feeding them, loving them, letting them sleep with me! I adopted Fozzie, the Golden mix at 8 weeks old, and he's like my child. The older female dachshund, Feather, is blind, but so sweet and loving. Yellow Kitty, my Maine Coon cat is the sweetest cat I've ever owned. Realizing all of this, I admit I do feel stifled and limited. Even moving to a new location is daunting. One has to find a pet-friendly neighborhood. I've worked for years (literally) to make my yard escape-proof!
Okay...so that's my rant. I just wonder if anyone else has the same feelings!
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Unread 03-30-2013, 02:16 AM   #2
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You're not alone. I wouldn't trade my Loki (bird) for anything, but I worry, what if my boyfriend and I decide to go our separate ways. I don't know if I could take him with me, because my boyfriend paid for him and I don't think he'd let me take him. Loki likes me better, in that he lets me pet him more and I give him far more attention. But I also feel a little limited, because I can't travel somewhere for several days, because I know he'll miss me and be worried and I feel guilty leaving him. So, I won't go anywhere where I'll be gone for more than two or three days.

I also want dogs, and I want them to sleep with me, but at the same time, I really like having my bed to myself. I like being able to sleep most days however long I want. If I had a dog, I'd commit to walking it and playing with it, and taking care of all its needs. I admit I'd miss some of my freedoms, but it's worth it, to me. You don't need to be ashamed of how you feel, because we don't choose our feelings, only our attitudes. Having others who depend on you can sometimes feel limiting and trapped. (((seeker1950)))

Editing this to add one more thing: Even parents often feel "tied down" because of their children. This doesn't mean they don't love them, but it's a reality that even moms and dads feel that way.
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Default Re: My pets really tie me down!

Seeker, I have definitely had similar feelings. I'd really like to be able to travel, but the critters make it difficult. I not only have cats and dogs that need tending, I've got the horses. Finding someone competent to look after them is daunting.

Maven pegged it when she said that parents can feel the same way abouth their kids.

For me the bottom line is that I would not trade the daily pleasure my fur family brings me for the freedom of not having to care for them. My life would be so empty without them.
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Thank you, Maven and LizardLady! I was afraid to come back on here and see if there were any responses to this post of mine! I felt I was sounding too selfish! My pets are all so very sweet, but they sure do limit what I can do! Not only the limitations of travel, but if you take care of pets the correct way, there is the financial obligation! And I certainlly do that also! That is another reason I know no one else would go to the expense that I do to keep the pets healthy....and I'm not one of those people who run to the vet often, but just keeping them parasite free and shots is expensive. Food for three pets is also expensive, and I don't even go for the high-end expensive foods. I don't feed them garbage dog and cat foods, but what I do buy is expensive: Purina 1 and Alpo canned for the dogs and Purina Indoor Cat for kitty. I've been pondering retirement, and I realize this will be a major expense to a limited income.
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I'm in the middle of going through a divorce and right now am the only person taking care of 5 big dogs, 5 alpacas, 5 turkeys, 17 sheep, 4 goats, several chickens and a 3-legged cow. I enjoy interacting with them and they bring a smile to my face, but it's too much for me and I know I'm going to have to let some/all go. It breaks my heart, but that's just life, y'know.
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I guess this is why they say that pets teach you responsibility. They're almost like children because you are in charge of a precious life.

Maine Coons are an excellent breed of cat. I had this cat a few years ago which looked something like a Maine Coon but in all honesty it was so oddly proportioned, it was about s wide as it was long and i just called it the blob. It wasn't fat, it was just a robust looking cat. Anyway i digress.
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Tell me about it!

I have 27 sheep, 6 chickens, 3 dogs and a horse. I ain't never leavin the house!!!!!

The sheep were my husbands idea but I have to take care of them. Now I have to have a Livestock Guard Dog to guard the sheep from the coyotes and Herding Dog to move the sheep.

Same with the chickens, all his idea.

And the horse was my wedding present, again, his idea.

The only animal that was my idea was Oliver...

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I feel extremely limited in my activities due to Kitteh...he had such a rough start, abandonment issues, and being cooped up in that cage for a year, so he acts out. I was hoping I could harness train him so we could take walks (common for his breed) but he wants nothing to do with it. He cannot deal with feeling restrained. Even just holding him and giving him lovies lasts a few seconds. And he doesn't like going in the car, either.

I feel so responsible for his healthcare, comfort and well-being. I cannot imagine life without him. My other beloved kitteh didn't LOVE staying overnight at the animal doctors but I knew if she did, she wouldn't freak out. This one, he will totally freak out!

But he takes a lot of energy out of me and sleep. Also, he is expensive to maintain (on a good month): Just his food (Science D), toys, bottled water, newspaper, swheatscoop, flea treatment, L-Lysine tablets and calming diffusers (2 to 4 a month) run me a couple hundred a month. Just for a lil 17 lb ball of furry love!

(He is an indoor kitty so thankfully I don't have to worry about running him to the vet every 5 seconds. But he does go annually for his boosters and a check up which also adds to the tab)

He is so high maintenance, too. I didn't know a kitteh could behave so dog-like. And to think...based on his health, lifespan, lifestyle, etc. we will be together for another 15 years or so...I hope my salary improves a teeny bit
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Yes, I was just reading a fiction book. There was a cat in it that no one wanted to adopt after its owner was killed. (Well, it was a mystery book.) One lady was saying, "Well, the cat is only two years old--and cats can live twenty years or longer! That's a major commitment!" At least we can legally not be responsible for children after the age of eighteen!

I'm glad we have a neighbor who can look after our pets when we need to leave town for awhile.
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Yes, our pets are truly a commitment. I think, sometimes, my weariness is an example of my lack of commitment, re/relationships, i.e., marriage. But you can leave a man; you can't really leave a pet! That said, now, after hearing some of your stories on here, I feel like I have a "light" load!
I mean...sheep?!!! horses!...alpacas! (bubsmiley).
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