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Old 03-20-2019, 08:32 AM #61
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First of all, you don't know how you will feel at 50. Old age has its own rewards.

When my older kids were small I thought I'd do myself in when the youngest turned 18. I had another baby when she was 13, so that plan went out the window. Then I started having grandkids and wanted to stick around to enjoy them. Also along the way I had a few health issues which I might have died from if not treated. I found that I very much did not want to die.

Now at 60, I sometimes feel that the best is past and there is nothing to look forward to, but I also know that you never know what tomorrow will bring. I am now in a good situation that I never dreamed would come my way.

I think your thinking and priorities will change through the years. Heck at 50 you're a half a century old! Something to be proud of! It's not all downhill after 50.

So to answer your question, you can set a date but I'd bet when the time comes you might feel differently.

I SO relate to this. Thanks for the post. I am 66...grandma...all those thoughts you had...I had...sometimes still do but...I try just to remember that dying is something we all do, I'm not going to miss it if I hang around, even if there are times when it feels all too painful for reasons I cannot even begin to explain (not being "rational")---also, the fact that my brother killed himself let me know just how devastating that is to others even if in the moment you truly believe it will be "better for them" or that no one cares or that you are too awful.....
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I SO relate to this. Thanks for the post. I am 66...grandma...all those thoughts you had...I had...sometimes still do but...I try just to remember that dying is something we all do, I'm not going to miss it if I hang around, even if there are times when it feels all too painful for reasons I cannot even begin to explain (not being "rational")---also, the fact that my brother killed himself let me know just how devastating that is to others even if in the moment you truly believe it will be "better for them" or that no one cares or that you are too awful.....
You are welcome.

I also had a brother commit sui. I do know how it feels. I sometimes think about what I might have missed and am grateful I survived it all.

Now I'm about to become a great grandmother. I know that makes me old...but glad I stuck around.
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My mother and her best friend used to say when they were in their 20's "lets shoot each other when we turn 75 if we are still alive" as a joking pact. They didn't want to experience the altimiers, dementia, and parkinsons they saw their parents, friends and neighbors go through.it was a joke and they are both 80 today and my mom has dementia and altizmeires.
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I've decided that I'd hate to live past the age of 50- I think 50 is my limit

is this wrong?

actually setting up the age you want it all to end?
I'm in my early 50's.

I want to end my life and have been planning for it.

I can't get work anymore to earn enough to get my own housing(apt) & healthcare.

Free isn't available for me.

Nothing is free in this world. If I don't have the money to pay for what I need then there is no point in existing.

This is not mental illness talking.

I am rational.

If I can't get work (and i want to work), then I don't want to die slowly in poverty.

I have enough to bury me now than if I spend my money on food, hygiene and car to exist.

My life won't get better that is why.

I have no family nor social supports.

Most ppl do

I've been shunned from society

The hard cold truth is, "no one cares."

Those who offer platitudes aren't paying my bills.
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