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Old 01-10-2019, 06:35 PM   #1
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Iíve had hocd for years now and itís improved a little but itís not enough. Iím 30 now Iíve liked a ton of guys over the years but never had s boyfriend. I am now in love with a guy Iíve never felt these feelings before though Iím not with him and when I think of how gorgeous he is and way thinking of him makes me feel good but now my hocd is ruining it I have constant doubts that I donít really like him or find him attractive and it makes me feel dishusting and empty. My mind constant makes up fhoughts against me liking him and I cannot deal with it itís unbearable to have to constantly have thoughts making me doubt who I am and what I really want. Anyone have any advice?
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Is he in love with you too or is it all one sided?
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I'm sorry I don't think I have much to offer in the way of suggestions with regard to your concern. If you see a therapist, perhaps this would be a good topic for discussion. If you do not see anyone, perhaps that might be something to consider? Having the opportunity to talk this through, at-length & in-depth, with someone may be one way of putting it to rest. I always tend to think that allowing something such as this to simply keep churning in your mind is probably the worst thing one can do. The thoughts just keep rolling around becoming more-&-more confusing & there's no resolution.

Here are links to some articles, from PC's archives, on the subject of intrusive thoughts that may be of interest:

10 Steps to Let Go of Obsessive Thoughts and Rewire a Painful Memory, 1 of 2

10 Steps to Let Go of Obsessive Thoughts and Rewire a Painful Memory, 2 of 2

Toxic Thinking Patterns Ė How Pseudo "Feel-Goods" Put Your Brain on Hold (1 of 2)

Seven Toxic Thinking Patterns to Break Ė How Pseudo "Feel-Goods" Trick Your Brain (2 of 2)

How to Regulate Your Body's Fear or Love Response to Make Conscious Changes to Your Brain, Part 3

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Old 01-15-2019, 04:40 PM   #4
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Perhaps make a list of the things you like about him and the things you don't like about him. I am a big doubter, too. I doubt myself all the time and have horrible thoughts about others. Is he your bf?
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