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Old 02-08-2018, 12:54 PM   #1
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I suspect the person Iím spending time with may be npd, I know that they donít feel empathy and donít care about others. He generally doesnít care about me but he does little things that make me question everything, like making sure that I eat and Iím taken care of and safe. Could this just be a control thing?? I need to understand his behavior.
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Old 02-09-2018, 02:18 AM   #2
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Definitely does seem like it could be controlling behavior, but could also be just classic concern because he cares about you. Hard to tell without more details.
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Old 02-09-2018, 12:29 PM   #3
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I suspect the person Iím spending time with may be npd, I know that they donít feel empathy and donít care about others. He generally doesnít care about me but he does little things that make me question everything, like making sure that I eat and Iím taken care of and safe. Could this just be a control thing?? I need to understand his behavior.
I dont have npd but I can tell you that its not just a npd thing and its not a controlling thing.

I have many people in my life who ask me and makesure I have plenty to eat, that Im taking care of myself, that I have someone to help take care of me when needed and that I am safe and sound. just last night a neighbor hear a loud noise and called me to make sure that I was alright because my wife was out of town and she had no idea what that noise was on our street. other neighbors and friends and family many times will call just to chat and say hi how are you, is everything ok, do you need anything, your eating right, right, you are safe over there right. now when you go up to your "camp" its safe up there right, you are safe, if not just let me know and ....

in other words its pretty normal for human beings to check on each other, make sure each other has what they need to survive and are safe.

I was reading some books that talk about cave man days and even back then they made sure that each other were taken care of, safe and had plenty of food and ate meals. some to the point of supplying / preparing foods for the whole clans.

human beings can be so caring and sympathetic to each other, its surprises me sometimes
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I don't have anyone close by who checks in on me. I used to have a couple of friends who would check in every now and then but have lost them and right now don't have the energy to go out and start over again making friends.

So my message is don't take anything for granted.
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Yes, it's a matter of control. Making you doubt your perception of reality is a huge sign that you're dealing with a narcissist.
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We need more details than what you have given in order to gauge whether or not npd is a possibility.
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Shhhh don't tell them that, too many people tell their entire life stories here. Smh.

I'm totally kidding. Sort of. Those posts can be a drag lol. Can someone who is npd
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Shhhh don't tell them that, too many people tell their entire life stories here. Smh.

I'm totally kidding. Sort of. Those posts can be a drag lol. Can someone who is npd
Oh yes some posts definitely end up WAY too long and become a hassle to read. Usually i just skim those ones lol
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