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Old 07-10-2018, 02:08 PM   #1
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Has anyone out there ever have some sort of performance anxiety, because they feel that their penis size is too small, or inadequate? This is what I suffer from, every time I'm about to have sex.
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Old 07-11-2018, 06:40 AM   #2
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Anxiety can and does effect you mentally . If your anxiety and doubt about yourself gets to such a level I'm sure it could block your expected arousal reactions . If it happens a few times I'm sure it would start becoming an elephant in the room where you start focusing on your anxiety instead of what is supposed to be a pleasurable experience .
But your question is if anyone has ever had a performance issue . Yes I remember having one . I was 17 and it was my first go at it . I had been waiting to get my license for months so I could go to the hookers 60 miles away . When I got there I was so nervous I couldn't get it up . Felt destroyed . Dragged my *** away and spent the next week in deep thought of what could be wrong with me . I went back in grim determination a week later and while not breaking any records I got the job done , and was away after that . So yes anxiety about anything can play a part .
Pretty much you've got what you've got as far as size goes . Don't let it ruin your intimacy with a partner . You can give yourself and your partner enough pleasure if you focus on that pleasure ..and not things you can't change .
Best to finish with a joke . My mate told me a good one years ago . " guy takes of his pants ...girl looks down and sez ..who are you going to satisfy with that ? .. guy sez " me , I'm going to satisfy me with that "
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Old 07-31-2018, 04:26 AM   #3
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Has anyone out there ever have some sort of performance anxiety, because they feel that their penis size is too small, or inadequate? This is what I suffer from, every time I'm about to have sex.
That happens to me at the beginning of the relationship.

However I have paid a prostitute and I couldn't perform so we just sat there hugging like a joke..
I appreciate your courage posting something we don't express more of, than less..
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Old 07-31-2018, 06:33 PM   #4
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That happens to me at the beginning of the relationship.

However I have paid a prostitute and I couldn't perform so we just sat there hugging like a joke..
I appreciate your courage posting something we don't express more of, than less..
-ok fellas, you need to know that technique is far more important than size for pleasing a woman. The only lover who could unfailingly bring me to climax had a small penis. Read up, talk to other guys. Really liking and respecting a woman is important for a relationship but if u know about female anatomy you will feel more confident about performing. And guys are not machines. Hugs, lol!!!!!
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-ok fellas, you need to know that technique is far more important than size for pleasing a woman. The only lover who could unfailingly bring me to climax had a small penis. Read up, talk to other guys. Really liking and respecting a woman is important for a relationship but if u know about female anatomy you will feel more confident about performing. And guys are not machines. Hugs, lol!!!!!
Thanks for the tip but I was in a 15 year relationship> marriage and we had a very fulfilling sex life followed by an intimate communication etc. We done a lot of blow. It's second nature to me....well it used to be. But yes all women want to feel special. So we pursue. Wink
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Old 08-03-2018, 03:56 AM   #6
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As a woman, I don't get much out of intercourse regardless of penis size. I get more pleasure from oral sex. But maybe I'm weird.
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Old 08-07-2018, 07:38 PM   #7
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As a woman, I don't get much out of intercourse regardless of penis size. I get more pleasure from oral sex. But maybe I'm weird.
Not weird at all. That's a lot of women. We don't have a magic stick you can just rub on and it spits. We have a tunnel (all of them different), men can't see inside the tunnel so they just have to feel their way to the treasure (g spot). Unfortunate for us, many times they spit before they reach the treasure . Unfortunate for them, we're a lot harder to please.
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Old 08-11-2018, 02:14 PM   #8
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Has anyone out there ever have some sort of performance anxiety, because they feel that their penis size is too small, or inadequate? This is what I suffer from, every time I'm about to have sex.
Hi there! That is exactly what I am suffering from and I am desparate. What's your story?
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