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Old 09-06-2017, 06:14 PM   #1
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I'm a 52 yr old Australian male . Worked in the underground mining industry all my life . I guess the reason for my post is to just see if anyone else experiences similar feelings ? To be blunt , I'm pretty much over working for a living . Just feel it's wasting precious time I won't get back . I guess it started when I was about 48 . I assume I hit the dreaded " mid life crisis " . I haven't done anything crazy or life altering , but mentally it has been a bit of a struggle . Perhaps I'm just mentally burnt out ? I generally work about 60 hrs a week and there is some stress involved as like most people I have targets and people to supervise . It may not help that I'm in an in between phase , where I've done alright from my labours , but not accumulated enough to give it away . My job is fairly specialised so I'm either working long hours making good money , but if I left to do something else I probably would only be qualified to collect shopping trolleys for a buck an hr . I have set goals to try to get through . Give it away at 55 , stuff like that , saving like a madman to try to make it happen . Some days go o.k. , some days you just can't seem to see an end to this mindless tread mill ... so am I just a silver spoon first world idiot who should suck it up and get on with it ....or do other guys hit the wall about now ?
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Old 09-29-2017, 06:47 AM   #2
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Checked back to view any opinions . Such is life , well that's how it's always been . You have to do it on your own , if you don't then you end up a victim . So anyway , right or wrong ..I have my plan . I am making it a reality . Basically I was ..am struggling with a mental health issue . The choices were to succumb , or fight . I choose life . I choose to choose my own destiny . Yes it will cost me two more years and nine months and some mental stress , sadness , depression ? Whatever those things really are ? . That's o.k. I can stick it . Do I have all the answers ? . No ... do I have any ? , ..maybe ? , we'll see . Keep achieving , keep striving for a goal , any goal . That might be the real meaning of life , climb the next hill , and keep climbing them till you done ... anyways
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So I'm a 52 yo man with a wife and two great boys which are 10 and 14. I have a successful job but struggle with depression and anxiety. I dream about not working but the fact is I'll be working at something until I'm dead. Bills, Bills Bills.... I hear your pain and understand it well. I get very little satisfaction from my job but it does pay well and like you I don't know what else I'm qualified for.

Two years and 9 months isn't really that long and when you look back one year, it goes by fast. But I also know how time stands still when you're depressed. Find a little fun somewhere mate... Anything.. Even reading or meeting up with a friend.

What will you do when you stop working? 60 is young, it's like the new 50.
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Hello Archie: I guess I can't really relate to your situation. I stopped working somewhere around your present age as a result of a combination of mental health & physical / medical problems. I'm now pushing 70 years old. However I can certainly relate to the feeling of just working for a living. I pretty-much felt that way my entire working life... which perhaps at least partially explains how I just came to give it all up when circumstances conspired to create that opportunity for me to do so. Anyway... I didn't really have any particularly useful observations to offer. I simply wanted to let you know I read your post & I wish you well.
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So I'm a 52 yo man with a wife and two great boys which are 10 and 14. I have a successful job but struggle with depression and anxiety. I dream about not working but the fact is I'll be working at something until I'm dead. Bills, Bills Bills.... I hear your pain and understand it well. I get very little satisfaction from my job but it does pay well and like you I don't know what else I'm qualified for.

Two years and 9 months isn't really that long and when you look back one year, it goes by fast. But I also know how time stands still when you're depressed. Find a little fun somewhere mate... Anything.. Even reading or meeting up with a friend.

What will you do when you stop working? 60 is young, it's like the new 50.
I'm 52 as well...that you for the perspective on this. I feel like I'm in the same spot - successful, but struggling with depression and anxiety. But I really appreciate your perspective. It does go by quickly.

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Thanks for your replies , it's good to hear from people . Also good to hear some are or have been in the same boat . It's no good constantly whining away is it , so that's not what I intend to do , but have to say I think it was all bought on by too many years of pushing myself to the physical and then mental limit at work , then I just broke to a certain extent . If I trace back the signs I think it really started to happen 10 years ago , the first hairline cracks . I'm fortunate , I'm almost there , so just have to stay positive , but it has given me an idea about how tough it must be for someone who suffers mental crumbling at a young age . My goal now is to plan to be able to do something that is constructive when I can escape , not for much money , maybe just as a volunteer . Hopefully to make a difference to a strangers life and not just to increase the wealth of the elite . Thanks boys !
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Pterodactyl Beach .. I remember a story I heard many years ago and has stuck with me . Someone discovered a large amount of Pterodactyl fossils on a beach ...and the show played out a scenario from millions of years ago " this one Pterodactyl had been flying hundreds of miles each year to this one beach with all the others . When he arrives he fights his way into the large pack and mates with a female and then leaves to fly back ... but this year he is old now , when he arrives at the beach he is totally exhausted .. he tries to fight his way into the pack but is too weak .. he drags himself injured to the outskirts of the pack , too tired and broken to fly away , he dies there ... life goes on ....then millions of years later they find his fossils ... in darker moments it's easy to identify with that one Pterodactyl.. but , that is life .. reminds you to try to make the most of it .
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Thanks for your replies , it's good to hear from people . Also good to hear some are or have been in the same boat . It's no good constantly whining away is it , so that's not what I intend to do , but have to say I think it was all bought on by too many years of pushing myself to the physical and then mental limit at work , then I just broke to a certain extent . If I trace back the signs I think it really started to happen 10 years ago , the first hairline cracks . I'm fortunate , I'm almost there , so just have to stay positive , but it has given me an idea about how tough it must be for someone who suffers mental crumbling at a young age . My goal now is to plan to be able to do something that is constructive when I can escape , not for much money , maybe just as a volunteer . Hopefully to make a difference to a strangers life and not just to increase the wealth of the elite . Thanks boys !
Interesting points, and I like your story about the pterodactyl, too. I've been thinking about volunteering a lot lately, too - maybe this is a midlife thing? At any rate, thank you for posting this. I have to stay positive too; been difficult lately, but I am holding on, and hope that you are too.
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Thanks regretful , yeah I reckon the volunteering is a by product . I think it's easy to pigeonhole the transition to be all about material things and regaining lost youth , but I know now it's more complex that that . I liken it to a reverse puberty in some ways . When you were 13 -15-17 yrs old , we had a lot of very different thoughts , not all of them frivolous and foolhardy . I'm no expert but I reckon after 40 years of grinding out a career , gaining houses , funds , etc for our families . We get the urge to do something to make a difference that's not based on "what's in it for me " .. probably not explained that so well . Puberty wasn't a bad thing once I had got through it ... starting to think this might be the same . Hang in there mate ...as the Tank Corps motto was after WWI " Through mud and blood ..to the green fields beyond "
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just an update on this . 5 years on from the beginning of transition and it's starting to feel like the path is widening and looking positive . Less than two years to financial goal now . Have made 2018 a year of personal development . Fitter and stronger now both physically and mentally . The goal date doesn't feel like a line to stagger across now . It feels like a lauching ramp which will be approached building up speed preparing to launch . Feeling true happiness for the first time in 5 years ..and not a day of it , but weeks at a time . Transition is a nasty journey , but the rewards might be worth the struggle .
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