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Old 06-18-2017, 11:05 AM   #1
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There have been times in my life when I literally knew I would destroy myself if I had a lot of money. I would have engaged in a lot of self-destructive behavior. And I would have used the money to try to get some petty payback. In the past I fantasized about hiring someone to make someone else's life miserable. I thought about making making sure the other had a bad day. Say, by just having my someone get in verbal fights with the other. And/or I've fantasized about hiring private investigators to dig up any dirt I could find. <-- but I regret those thoughts. That isn't my true self. I've never even tried to do anything of the sort with what little power I do have. Never even tried to find out the latest gossip about people I am in conflict with.

I'm trying to convince myself that I'm in a better place now, and that I would be okay if I started making a lot of money. Not many of my family members have much money, and I'd enjoy helping them as much as I could, without making them dependent on me. If there was enough money, maybe it would be best to just give everyone in my immediate family a salary. If I had a lot of money, I can think of things I could do anonymously in my own community to make it a better place.

I'd use the money I had to be a little more reclusive... to get out of the limelight as much as possible, and just enjoy doing good things without making a big deal of it.

What about you? Would you be okay with a lot of money, or would you engage in self-destructive behavior, and/or use the money to do things that you'd later regret?
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Old 06-21-2017, 04:30 PM   #2
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I don't know... having lots of money always sounds great! But it seems like people who have it often end up with more problems than I, at least, have. Somehow it's never quite as easy as staying out of the limelight & helping those who are less fortunate. Someone is always trying to figure out a way of snookering you out of what you have. My spouse & I are fortunate at this point in that we're both retired. So it's easy for us to stay out of the limelight. I'm particularly adept at it. If I did have money though, I don't think I would use it to engage in self-destructive behavior. I'd probably just hide it somewhere & keep doing what I do...
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I would give it away where its really needed. As long as I have a roof over my head, some savings, daily bread and a computer; Im safe on this plane of existence.

It would be great to invest it in fighting the Kthulu shadows from invading my mind...
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...or fund an organization devoted to bring more equilibrium on the planet. I also feel threatened by all the stupid forces at work in this world...
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I would give anything to be financially well off right now. No more worrying about not being able to provide for myself and no more having to work boring jobs or work extra hard at college.

I would love to just become a multimillionaire so I could buy a tiny house with full solar power and buy the piece of land so I never have to pay rent or worry about homelessness again and use the rest of my money to change the world and follow my passions.
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I had an inheritance and spent it all getting this stupid house fixed. Don't know what I would do now. Buy a new house and a bunch of pretty stuff and travel around the world, I suppose.

I'm not good with money. My husband handles the finances and he does a good job with it.
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Being homeless at one point, I can appreciate being able to support oneself. Having a steady income at this point, I can now save a lot of it to prevent this from happening in the future, paranoid you could say, because I know it can all be gone in a moment. I would not like to have to worry though and to take that pressure off, I would like to have a cushion.

If I had more, I could put more towards retirement, continue to donate to the various charities that helped me, give to others that I would like to be able to support, and put even more for my niece's and nephew's futures. I would be ok if I were wealthy because savings is always at the top of the list. I would keep doing what I am doing for work though as long as I possibly can, well, because I am definitely financially paranoid.

It completely boggles my mind that most lottery winners are broke within 2 years. I can comprehend how it happens but it breaks my heart.
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There have been times in my life when I literally knew I would destroy myself if I had a lot of money. I would have engaged in a lot of self-destructive behavior. And I would have used the money to try to get some petty payback. In the past I fantasized about hiring someone to make someone else's life miserable. I thought about making making sure the other had a bad day. Say, by just having my someone get in verbal fights with the other. And/or I've fantasized about hiring private investigators to dig up any dirt I could find. <-- but I regret those thoughts. That isn't my true self. I've never even tried to do anything of the sort with what little power I do have. Never even tried to find out the latest gossip about people I am in conflict with.

I'm trying to convince myself that I'm in a better place now, and that I would be okay if I started making a lot of money. Not many of my family members have much money, and I'd enjoy helping them as much as I could, without making them dependent on me. If there was enough money, maybe it would be best to just give everyone in my immediate family a salary. If I had a lot of money, I can think of things I could do anonymously in my own community to make it a better place.

I'd use the money I had to be a little more reclusive... to get out of the limelight as much as possible, and just enjoy doing good things without making a big deal of it.

What about you? Would you be okay with a lot of money, or would you engage in self-destructive behavior, and/or use the money to do things that you'd later regret?
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No. I was wealthy when I became disabled.
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I might not be mentally or physically "better" but I would sure have a lot of my immediate problems taken care of. No medical bills would be piling up, no debt, I could feed myself, and invest in activities I enjoy and causes I believe in. I would probably have trouble using harder drugs if I had the money for them though.
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