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Old 06-22-2018, 06:20 AM   #81
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So I got all worked up and worried as well as being ill these last few days,the assessor turned up,she was nicer than the last one,she listened to all my difficulties and said she will report as I said,so hopefully I will get a better result.I didn't sense any vibes off her that she was trying to catch me out though she made me repeat things and sometimes forgot what I'd told her but she said don't worry I wrote it down when you first said so if I forgot and write it twice I will have it when I write it up later.She asked about the difficulties I have with mental illness and my diabetes,socialising,cooking,washing,walking,going unfamiliar places...I had a chance to explain everything,I was worried I'd forgotten stuff but no it is cos I was anxious and expecting a hostile grilling and I got someone nice that threw me.I hope it goes ok. At least that is over.Now wait for another decision.

My niece comes back from US next friday so I have that to look forward to.
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Old 06-22-2018, 11:10 AM   #82
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Friday early evening,I should be relieved,but I am still wound up,tense and in shock.
I wasn't expecting the assessor to be nice and to listen or ask me what she did.I am hoping I have a better result but my mind has trained itself to be anxious and expect the worst and I am still worried.I need someone trained to massage me cos I am in pain,my whole body,my muscles are full of tension and I can't relax.If I do get given money I will treat myself to a massage cos I need the relief.

I think this whole new PIP benefit based on how they believe your illness affects you is all wrong,it is not enough anymore to be diagnosed with a serious illness you have to convince them it makes you too ill to look after yourself without help.And the people that assess all have their individual attitudes and judgements some are hard can't get blood out of a stone types and some are caring so it is pot luck what you get.Everyone who gets assessed gets a different result if they are given a different assessor next time they are assessed,it is not uniform or consistent,it is all wrong.If I still get refused I will appeal all the way though.
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Old 06-22-2018, 01:20 PM   #83
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Glad you felt she was nice. Fingers crossed for you. How long do you expect to have to wait for a decision?
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Old 06-22-2018, 01:41 PM   #84
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Hi Deejay,
They said it shouldn't be too long maybe by August I will hear if usual timeslots apply but when I rang before and they had told me there would be another assessment and I complained my money had stopped the woman there said,have the assessment and after it should only take a couple of weeks to get back to you with a decision.So not sure could be earlier could be later!

Deejay I get upset about how worked up,worried and anxious I get about it all.I wish I could be fearless and courageous all the time about it,but my fear of scarcity kicks in and I get terrified and physically ill even.How can I change my attitudes?I am sure no one else here has a thread this long about benefits troubles,I am pathetic aren't I?
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No you are not pathetic Marilyn. Different assessors can make the world of difference. I had one that made me cry a couple of years ago. I heard later that he was promoted because he saved the insurance company heaps of money. My last one in Dec last year was so nice and understood the mental health side. It does take time to settle down afterwards. Please try not to beat yourself up about it.

The truth of it is that they don't know you. They dont know how you are impacted. Hiding how much you are impacted does not help them to make the best decision for you. Hopefully now the day has passed you can settle a little bit.
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Thanks Possum,I still do think its so unfair that two different assessors can find so differently in one person's case when they have chronic mental and physical illness.How can you say someone is not affected and finding things difficult to do when they have 3 chronic physical illnesses and 2 mental illnesses.

Oh well,today I am relieved the assessment phase is over and it is a weight off my mind.I am physically exhausted though,I went out to eat and to the mall to get pads and then came home.I am achey all over and have tension in my back and shoulders.I have so much work to do around the home and garden but I need rest too.So I figure the more I rest the more I will be able to do,that is the theory anyway.I was getting nostalgic earlier too remembering people from my youth,I liked them and they never really liked me I suffered abuse from them,makes me feel sad,they are probably all career driven successful people now and I am ill,disabled and on benefits.
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Marylin, it is by no means pathetic. I have been waiting for months now myself for long-term disability. The lawyer has been to my house but still after 4 months the insurance company has not sent him my file. It's just the system- not a reflection of you. It's good you come here for support and others can learn from your experience. Hope you get the rest you need and tomorrow will be a good day.
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Awwe Deejay I am sorry to hear that you are going through benefit woes too.It is a horrible experience isn't it?Yes, I am trying to relax today,will eat early evening and go catch a film at the cinema.Thanks for your support!
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It is friday 6.24am...my assessment is between 10am and 12pm.
Last three days I have been really ill,my diabetic blood sugars were too high and that set of a virus infection,I felt really exhausted and had no energy,and my depression was really bad.I was anxious too.I was told by my legal team not to make an extra special effort with the housework to let them see how I can't always manage but I had to vacume cos the bits on the floors were attracting flies and I had to sort the cat litter so it didn't smell.I was told not to was my hair too but there was no way cos it had been hot and I'd been sweating and it stunk.I mean if their view is that if you are ill you don't do housework at all and don't wash when you need to even though you do so with difficulty, it is ridiculous,I can do some chores but it is exhausting and I am not well after exerting myself,it doesn't mean I am not ill.

I have a long time to wait till 10am maybe 12pm until the assessor turns up.I am trying to remain calm and keep my anxieties and fears at bay.I just want it done and this time hopefully the assessor will be more understanding.
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I do hope it went ok for you. Iím sorry for the stress and anxiety it puts people under x
Hi Iím fairly new here and just noticed a couple of other replies I hadnít seen, that you wrote after the assessment, apologies,
Iím glad you got that over with...best wishes x
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