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Old 12-09-2017, 04:33 PM   #1
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Iím having trouble wrapping my head around the idea of giving a second hand gift to our kids.
Iíd like to hear other parent comments. Iím not sure where I fall on this issue, but Iím definitely leaning so Iíd like to know how you feel about it.
An example is finding something on an app like Craigslist or Let Go & giving it to your kids as a Christmas gift.
Does a gift have to be new? Do all gifts have to be new? Where do you draw a line in what you want as new?
And of course how to explain this idea, philosophy, POV etc to your kids when everything is highly commercialized.

Thanks for sharing your feelings on this post.
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In my son doesn't care if it's something wanted/liked.
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My daughter is 7 and prefers new items otherwise its not a gift, in her words.

An example of that, I got a winter jacket for her today which I told her came from a friend of hers who's parents were going to send it to a charity shop so I said I would take it off her but Rhona just looked at it and moaned "I don't want it, it is a second hand one, I want a brand new one", now that was not even a gift it was getting her something she needed so imagine what it is like getting her a gift lol.
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In my son doesn't care if it's something wanted/liked.


Can you explain this a bit more? Iím not sure I understand. Thanks
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We have given and received second hand gifts. If the gift is in good condition then it is no problem. What I don't like is when my mother-in-law gives second hand puzzle books that are half done. My son tends to get a lot of second hand books, we go to the library's books to buy events and get a big box of books for $10, he knows they are not new and is ok with it.
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I've given previously owned games before as gifts, provided that the original/new copy doesn't come with a code then they aren't opposed. I really think, for me, it would depend on what it is, the condition, etc. Some things are not readily available in stores. For instance, I'm considering an air hockey table. Saw one in a flyer but if ones even better and in good condition I'd consider an online ad like the apps mentioned. With clothes, sometimes something like consignment can bring in an item that otherwise would be completely out of reach.
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Iím not fond of my SO buying a second hand item for a Xmas gift when itís in the electronic area. Thereís no back up if thereís something wrong with it...& no box. And itís not like we canít afford it, but I feel he looks at everything as how can I get this cheap bec he hates to spend money.
This yr I had an extra seasonal job in the fall & the bit of money I made there I put almost all of it towards gifts. Gifts that they want...not necessarily need. It was empowering to me bec I donít have an income.

My kids know we buy a lot of things used & value that. Plus putting things in a box to give to goodwill or another such place, bec someone else might really want/need it.
I guess what I see, & I rarely watch tv, was the amount of commercialism on our screens that to have a ďwonderfulĒ Xmas you need to shop & buy & everything had to be picture perfect etc. It made me nauseous, but then I looked at my kids faces while they were watching it & were totally sucked into the hype. Hook, line & sinker. It was kind of disturbing actually.
The past 4 xmasís ive had a kid cry after it was done. Someone didnít get what they wanted. And it floored me! My SO had to take over & say, you donít always get what you want etc etc, but itís this idea of....them just not being satisfied after everything weíve done that makes me angry, wonder what am I really teaching them...& then my depression sets in.
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We have a set budget for Christmas and birthday presents. My son knows the amount and knows he will not be getting anything that costs over that budget. He also knows that 50% of the budget is for books.
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I canít do a set budget yet bec 2 still believe in Santa. Itís all about making sure the box numbering is even. Ugh. Bec they will count & compare!
But I do look forward to having a set budget for them & no arguing.
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