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Old 12-15-2017, 04:58 AM   #11
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I was buying second hand winter coats yesterday after a stark realization of what happened to my old ones and there was a woman in line ahead of me talking about the My Little Pony find for her grandkids. Things like that needn't always come in a package, I thought. I'm down to just 1 son that still believes, so I certainly appreciate the dilemma you have. And I know what you mean about an even number of boxes, I've lived that and still do.
That's great that you gave yourself an income to add your preference to the holiday.
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Old 12-15-2017, 06:18 AM   #12
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I've given pre-owned gifts I think it's ok
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Old 12-16-2017, 04:18 PM   #13
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I do give second-hand gifts, but for a child I would make sure they are in great condition and the child isn't getting it from another child they know, as a hand-me-down.

I buy off Ebay and from places such as Goodwill and the Salvation Army sometimes.
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My sister and I noticed a white line (upper 3 mm of the paper or something) on the Rollercoaster Tycoon gift from Santa back when we still believed.. a few years later we found out that was because my father and brother had printed it themselves. The game was a copy. We thought it was funny.

I guess in the end it depends on the condition of what you're giving. And I don't think I'd do second-hand electronics.
And not everything has to be in perfect condition - depends on the item. Weathered wood has character, weathered plastic looks careless and ugly.

Can you try to teach your daughter the value of money? If she wants a new bike, say: OK, a second hand bike costs $100 and a new bike $500. You generally get a new bike every two years.. so you can have a new one in 8 years, or we can find a really pretty second-hand one now.
(Just realized the bike I got last year (I am 20) was my first ever new bike).
Buying everything new for a young kid.. well, how long will they actually use it? Bikes are outgrown fast, clothes too.
My parents aren't penny-pincers at all, neither are they poor. They just didn't see much use for spending a lot of money on a bike that would be outgrown within 2 years. (I still don't see the use of a new regular bike. I have an e-bike now, slightly different situation) I had new clothes and clothes that my sister had outgrown.

Just thinking- is it possible your kid is ashamed, afraid of being teased or bullied? Being thought of as poor? Maybe there's one or a few rich kids in her class and she wants to be like them because they are popular?
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I haven’t thought about the pressure at school. I don’t think my oldest feels that bec she never really asks for things, like specific things or name brand things (thank god)
But since I had an extra income in the fall I really went out on a limb for her.
My SO & I have discussed getting a itouch for her & her own piece of technology. He wouldn’t pull the trigger but always said we needed to discuss it more, wait another yr, she’s not responsible etc etc.
so I bought it for her myself. And my SO knows I paid for it myself.
We’ve had ups & Downs with it, but I think she’s been handling this technology well.
But my SO bought her a voice recorder she wanted for school...& got it second hand, no box or directions.
Last wk she brought it home & said “it crashed” & can’t figure out how to fix it. Now my SO wants to play with it & see if he can get it to work again.
Sometimes I don’t think it’s worth the hassle.
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The point of gift giving is to display you care. Intention is everything. Whether handmade, second hand, or new, the point is you took the time and attention to select the gift and give it.

Someone mentioned above their 7yr old not tolerating anything used. I wonder what they do about it; let this child dictate this? Eye brow raising.

Instead I think you have a wonderful opportunity to teach an excellent lesson to your children about the true value of things not to mention some ettiquette.
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The point of gift giving is to display you care. Intention is everything. Whether handmade, second hand, or new, the point is you took the time and attention to select the gift and give it.



Someone mentioned above their 7yr old not tolerating anything used. I wonder what they do about it; let this child dictate this? Eye brow raising.



Instead I think you have a wonderful opportunity to teach an excellent lesson to your children about the true value of things not to mention some ettiquette.


A few yrs ago my sib was complaining after putting on this pretty grand sleepover party for her 10yr old that “this one kid was cheap! She gave her a homemade card!”
Omg I was appalled she said that! We do homemade cards as much as possible. They take time & attention & I think their beautiful! Store bought cards r expensive anyway.
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A few yrs ago my sib was complaining after putting on this pretty grand sleepover party for her 10yr old that “this one kid was cheap! She gave her a homemade card!”
Omg I was appalled she said that! We do homemade cards as much as possible. They take time & attention & I think their beautiful! Store bought cards r expensive anyway.
What a shame. What sort of value is she communicating to her child. How unfortunate. I spent hours making my own greeting cards and wrapping paper. It would have hurt me to no end if the recipient had such an attitude. I doubt they would care, rather it would be a parent with such a disparaging comment. Sigh, their loss.
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