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Old 11-14-2017, 09:23 AM   #1
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Unfortunately I may have to resort to starting the eviction process with my adult son.It's not something I want to do but I feel I have no other choice.

I do not want him living in my home.He doesn't work,doesn't contribute in any way and is very disrespectful.I have talked to him many times about his behavior and the things he does/doesn't do in my home and he just says he will do whatever the ***** he wants.I have tried making him leave but he won't go.He says I will have to evict him.

My husband doesn't have my back on this,he doesn't agree with making him leave.As a matter of fact,he will unlock a door for him so he can come in our home in the middle of the night.He won't tell him to leave.

So what other option do I have other than leaving myself?This is MY home too and I have the right to say who can and cannot live here.I shouldn't have to leave my own home.

I have anxiety writing this because I feel guilty for even thinking about eviction.Especially with Thanksgiving coming up next week.It makes me feel so horrible.

Just want to also add that I have called the police before to have him removed and was told the only way to make him leave is to have him evicted.I think that's b.s. that someone can use your address for mail and claim rights to your home and you can't make them leave without going through a legal process.
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Old 11-14-2017, 09:48 AM   #2
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If you and your husband have equal rights to the home, this will be very tricky if he does not agree to go through with the eviction.

Is there any particular reason why your son does not contribute at all? Does he struggle with any mental/physical issues, or is he just taking advantage of your kindness?

What do you think about leaving yourself? Is the marriage a happy one, aside from your son being there? Sorry if this is too many questions, and you don't have to answer them all. I was just wanting to get a feel for the whole situation. It sounds frustrating to have someone in the home who does not contribute...I have been there before, but with an ex rather than a son.
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Old 11-14-2017, 11:39 AM   #3
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My son doesn't contribute because he's an addict.

My husband is afraid if we make him leave our home he will die,not understanding that by allowing him to live with us with no worries or responsibilities besides getting high he is enabling him.

I have no place to go.No money of my own.Not yet anyway.

I can't do this anymore.I would rather live under a bridge than go through this any longer.
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Yesterday I packed a bag and left.I went and sat in a parking lot in my car for a couple of hours,because sadly,I had no where to go.

As I was sitting there,feeling sorry for myself,feeling so hopeless,I started thinking **** this,that is MY home too,I have the right to say what goes on in my own home,I have the right to say who gets to stay there or not,it's not right for my husband to allow our son to stay there and disregard my feelings about it.

So I went home and said those exact things to my husband and told him if he doesn't like it then HE can leave.

So,we shall see how all this plays out.
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Eviction is a process. It takes time in most jurisdictions. It is required after someone has lived in your place for a certain amount of time. I would recommend going to an al-anon meeting. Take your husband if he is willing to go. They will be able to provide you with support and help you with this situation. Good luck.
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