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Unread 10-05-2017, 10:20 PM   #1
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My niece is a young girl who enjoys physically abusing animals and her older brother. In recent weeks, I caught her kicking her cat. Today, I caught her taping my dog's nose and mouth shut, which put me into such a rage that I lost control and slapped her. (And all she did was laugh at the pain.)

What the hell do I do with her? Her parents think it's normal and refuse to take action.
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Unread 10-06-2017, 10:09 AM   #2
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Wow. That's really sad because in children, abusing animals, is often a sign of serious psychological issues.
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How old is she? It seems like she does not understand the seriousness of her actions.
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If her parents aren't going to encourage her to change her behavior, it would seem in some ways you are powerless to effect change in her.


Are you able to keep your dog away from her, going forward?
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It depends very much on the age of the child. Very young children often do not understand that animals have feelings, they have to be taught this.

You could try saying to her "How do you think cat feels when you do that?" See what comes back, listen to her responses and gauge her understanding. If she doesn't seem to understand then "How would you feel if someone much bigger did that to you?" I think working with her is likely to be more helpful than just telling her off.

It does depend very much on her age however, whether she is 3 or 13, there is a big difference in how you approach this.
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It sounds like she is in a bad place, this isn't about 'behaviour' or discipline, it's about love.
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If she is abusing the cat, then her parents need to find a safe new home for the cat. It's not okay to allow an animal to be abused. If her parents won't do anything, then you need to call animal control.

In terms of how to help your niece, as others have said, it depends on her age. How old is she?
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