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Unread 03-21-2017, 08:46 PM   #1
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What do you do if your own flesh and blood is sexist?
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What do you do if your own flesh and blood is sexist?
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Tell him not to be. I'm sorry that your son has the unfortunate experience of being misogynistic. Are you his mother? Father? A lot of men in my family are sexist. It's kind of scary.
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How old is he? What influence does his father have or have not in his life?

What do you do/ say when he acts sexist ?
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Why do you describe him as sexist?
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Misogynistic is a strong term.
Are you able to explain what he has done to raise these concerns?
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He has learned this behaviour from someone.
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I am just going to throw this out there. Women often make comments about men that if a man had made about women, he would be labeled as misogynist, and it is seen as a non-issue.

Here is an example. A female facebook friend posted a video where a guy admits to cheating on his girlfriend a bunch of times. Another female responds with "men are trash". There was no backlash and she even got a couple likes. If a man had said something like this about women, he would be labeled as a misogynist and socially ostracized. But when a female makes such a comment, people just chalk it up to her being upset by something men did.

Another example. I literally just read an article on Huffington Post where the writer said this: "While this rule seems tried and true, it doesn't change the fact that it*seems like*the majority of single guys out there are, in fact, assholes." Again, imagine if this was a man saying this about single women.

So before you label your son as a misogynist, ask yourself if you would have the same concerns if you had a daughter who displayed a similar attitude towards men. If not, then perhaps it shouldn't be an issue?

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How old is he?
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If he is making sexist remarks or behaving in a sexist way, he has learned that behavior from someone or somewhere. It's your responsibility as a parent to teach him to respect women. You need to talk to him and talk to him about how he treats women.

I would Google some articles on how to raise a son who respects women. I've seen quite a few blog posts and articles on the subject that should be helpful to you in repairing whatever damage has been done.

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