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Old 02-26-2019, 07:35 PM   #1
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Hi,

Things have been really hard at home. I'm a teen, and there's a lot of fighting at home between my guardians. Things get heated at times they become physical.
I don't know what to do. I can't just call the police because it would look bad on our family, and our whole neighborhood would see it.


There's a reason why things are sort of the way they are at home, I won't explain as I want to stay as anonymous as possible.

I feel we live in a home where it involves dealing with someone who's manipulative, controlling, and mentally ill. We keep giving more than multiple second chances. But this is a family member we're talking about, so just calling the police or whatever would be shameful.

It's so hard to focus on school living with constant fighting and yelling every single day. It's a cycle of getting along, fights happening again. They're not regular fights too. They can happen maybe 3 times a day, for 30 minutes to an hour.

I don't know what to do.

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Old 02-26-2019, 09:34 PM   #2
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This is so sad. Many years ago my parents used to argue. I recall one year, on my birthday, my parents got into it. And I can still picture myself riding off on my bike telling my father maybe I could have a happy birthday by myself. However, from what you wrote, it sounds as though what you're dealing with may be worse than what I experienced.

I wish I had some helpful suggestions for you. You really are stuck. I think you're right. You can't just call the police. Well... perhaps you could. And if things get bad enough that might be something you'd want to consider doing. But I understand why you wouldn't want to.

Beyond that I'm afraid the only things that would occur to me would be to try to find someone you can talk to about what you're experiencing. Sometimes just having someone to talk with in real life can be a great comfort. And then the other thing would be if there was someone else you could go stay with for periods of time when things are tense. I personally doubt there would be anything you could do to intervene in what is happening & make a positive change in your family members' behaviors. Perhaps other members will have some creative suggestions.
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Old 03-05-2019, 07:49 PM   #3
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This is so sad. Many years ago my parents used to argue. I recall one year, on my birthday, my parents got into it. And I can still picture myself riding off on my bike telling my father maybe I could have a happy birthday by myself. However, from what you wrote, it sounds as though what you're dealing with may be worse than what I experienced.

I wish I had some helpful suggestions for you. You really are stuck. I think you're right. You can't just call the police. Well... perhaps you could. And if things get bad enough that might be something you'd want to consider doing. But I understand why you wouldn't want to.

Beyond that I'm afraid the only things that would occur to me would be to try to find someone you can talk to about what you're experiencing. Sometimes just having someone to talk with in real life can be a great comfort. And then the other thing would be if there was someone else you could go stay with for periods of time when things are tense. I personally doubt there would be anything you could do to intervene in what is happening & make a positive change in your family members' behaviors. Perhaps other members will have some creative suggestions.
Hey,

Thank you for taking your time to reply me, and sorry if I'm replying late. I really appreciate you taking the time to reply. I'm sorry you had to go through what you did on that birthday when your parents fought. I had a similar birthday like that too.

I guess I can only hope that things get better, but for right now -- I'm stuck, and I feel stuck. But thank you again for your support, it really helps.
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Hi,

Things have been really hard at home. I'm a teen, and there's a lot of fighting at home between my guardians. Things get heated at times they become physical.
I don't know what to do. I can't just call the police because it would look bad on our family, and our whole neighborhood would see it.


There's a reason why things are sort of the way they are at home, I won't explain as I want to stay as anonymous as possible.

I feel we live in a home where it involves dealing with someone who's manipulative, controlling, and mentally ill. We keep giving more than multiple second chances. But this is a family member we're talking about, so just calling the police or whatever would be shameful.

It's so hard to focus on school living with constant fighting and yelling every single day. It's a cycle of getting along, fights happening again. They're not regular fights too. They can happen maybe 3 times a day, for 30 minutes to an hour.

I don't know what to do.
It is NOT shameful if there is physical abuse or severe emotional abuse. Safety is not shameful. Because of how you seem to have been raised or at least the abusive home you are used to- you seem to feel that you must protect those that are doing the abusing. This is not abnormal but you have to know that protecting yourself and other minors in the home is the most important thing. It is shameful that the adults you live with are acting this way and causing you harm. Is there a school guidance counselor you can talk to?
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