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Old 02-27-2018, 02:45 PM   #1
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Default jealousy + comparing myself to others

How do you even fix this?

I get really bitter when I'm around people happier than me. Admittedly I act kinda like bully. I just really hate myself.
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Old 03-01-2018, 07:10 AM   #2
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I understand. Sometimes I do that too. I'm envious person.

I'm still struggling with that, so I don't know if it will work or not. I avoid those kind of people. Also, avoid facebook or any social media.
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Old 03-01-2018, 04:56 PM   #3
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I understand. Sometimes I do that too. I'm envious person.

I'm still struggling with that, so I don't know if it will work or not. I avoid those kind of people. Also, avoid facebook or any social media.
I try to avoid too but I just keep having these insecurity problems. I feel like I'm not making any progress just ignoring.
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Old 03-02-2018, 01:08 AM   #4
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Have you tried loving-kidness meditation. The idea is that you set aside 10 minutes a day to wish yourselves and others happiness. The goal is to practice letting go the focus on jealousy and opening up. For me this personally worked really well to reduce my anxiety and jealousy.

Loving kidness meditation is simple. Sit down for 5 to 10 minutes in a calm area. Then first focus on your breath to relax. Next in your mind repeat good wishes to you. Finally wish the same to someone else you know. Repeat the wishes for you and some other person or group alternatingely.

Example wishes could be (but you can also make your own, just keep the same for at least a few days. The focus should be on wishing, not on remembering sentences by heart...):
- May I be safe from harm.
- May I be happy just as I am.
- May I be peaceful with whatever is happening.
- May I be healthy and strong.
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Old 03-05-2018, 09:54 AM   #5
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Oh god, I can feel you so bad >< Jealousy is such a destructive feeling, it makes me hate myself too haha.
Usually when I notice that I am comparing myself to some else, I just.. stop, I try to think about something else, anything else. It keeps me safe from feelings of envy and worthlessness.
Also working on improving your self-esteem may be a cool idea ^^;

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Im like that too which makes me wanna hide in a room and not come out. It hurts me and others when im around them.

I have been told i have a big ego and im like a narcissist and i dont want to admit i am that. I dont really know what i am. I always thought my reactions to things have been normal.
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Old 08-12-2018, 07:35 AM   #7
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I think we all have moments like that. I just try to remind myself that someone else's happiness has nothing to do with mine. I also try to remember that everyone has problems, too. Like when you scroll through facebook and you see all the happy photos of families, parties, friends, vacations, etc. Just remember that people are more likely to share the good in their lives than the bad. And try to be happy for them because their successes have probably been preceded by times of bad fortune, too.
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