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Unread 07-15-2017, 02:33 PM   #1
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Iíve spent so much time in my life trying to prove to others that Iím worthy, that I am someone. That my life matters.



But in reality, the one person I have always forgotten to make sure to include in that was myself. I think we all see approval from others (ok, not all) is because we donít know how to seek approval from ourselves. We do not know how to make our own selves happy, make our selves smile.



Or if we do, we want to share it with someone elseÖ and when that someone else isnít thereÖ



For me that overthinking begins.



So.



I do have hobbies. I do have things I "enjoy" doing.

But I've decided to make a change in life.

I got fired last week, and after much deliberation and thought of all the different directions I could go... I decided to go with the "just stop overthinking it" route and too a job that seems a few steps back in my career, but it is making things a bit simplistic. I have responsibilities, but just my own customers and work. No other employees or management. Just me.

Now. I can start to have a life for once.

But.

I don't know how to actually 'enjoy' life if that makes sense. I don't get any excitement out of anything. I don't know how.

Or does that even make sense?

I'm done making others happy. I don't want anyone to MAKE me happy.

Just teach me how to be.
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Unread 07-16-2017, 01:19 PM   #2
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Wow. You have such good insight that you need to learn to care for yourself and create a life that works for you. That alone is amazing! And that you were willing to accept a job with less responsibility without beating yourself up, knew it was a good move for you ... that takes a lot of courage :-)

As for knowing how to enjoy life? Maybe giving yourself permission to really enjoy those hobbies you like is a good start. Following your own 'star' is the only thing in life that really works but you do have to be willing to let go of what others are thinking of you and for most of us, that is the hardest part. My ego screams louder than my authentic self (!) so I have to be vigilant to tune it out and go on with what is right for me.

You are on an brave and exciting journey. Keep up the good work
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My ego is currently screaming his head off right now.

I'm fighting it.

Hard.
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