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Old 06-17-2017, 08:08 PM   #1
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I moved back home after graduating college, and at the time I left college I had already suspected toxicity in my family. However, recently I had a bit of an argument with my Dad that sealed it. My Dad is often grumpy and ornery and sometimes says mean things due to his orneriness. Both of my parents have had a tendency to be quite judgmental towards other people (and me whenever I shared anything with them that they didn't agree with for whatever reasons). I could go into more detail, but I don't want to create a wall of text. In recent times, I have been getting along with them surprisingly well since I've been living my own life more without living in fear of the judgment. This has been going surprisingly well given what I would have expected before.

However, two days after that argument with my Dad, I decided that it's time for me to move on more or less. I'm not necessarily saying I'd like to avoid contact with them entirely, but I feel that I need to move on with my life. These people are just no good, there is really nothing more to say. I feel nothing towards them after the thing that happened the other day, and I feel that when I convinced myself I did..... a good part of it was simply fake.

Sometimes, I trick myself into seeing the situation different. However, please give me encouragement to change this self destructive habit of pretending something is the case that isn't real.... and give me the encouragement I need to move on. Give me the encouragement I need to keep up with my work for the business I have started and leave "family" in the past. It may work for some people, but it hasn't worked for me.

With regard to my mother especially, she may not be through and through a bad person or anything. I frankly don't think she is. My Dad isn't really either. However, these people (particularly my Dad) just aren't really people that are doing me any good in my life at the moment, and I'd like to move on. My Mom is someone I have strong positive feelings for, but at the same time I don't really trust her either. So, I feel that it would be best to move forward and keep my distance from them somewhat as soon as I'm able to. How I would proceed in the later future still depends on and only on what feels right for me.
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Hello Monkey: All I can tell you is that, many years ago, I finally had to distance myself from my parents as well. So when I had a chance to move out of state to attend graduate school, I did. And I really never looked back. It was sad. But it had to be that way. So all I can say is... you just have to do what you have to do. Best wishes...
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It sounds like your family has become toxic to you and for your own mental health and sanity you need to move out and move on. Don't feel guilty if at first you don't want to see them. This would be normal. At some time you may wish to have a relationship with them on your terms and maybe not. Either way is acceptable. I support you in this. Do this for you. Best wishes.
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You only get one family. Keep that in mind whatever you do.
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Most of my family are toxic and broken, do what's best for you and your wellbeing, keep in touch with them now and then
however moving away is a Good idea. You cannot fix people or their behaviours, only your own
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You made the right choice. A bad family is ... bad for your health. Remember you can always create your own family. There are many kind individuals who would love to be a part of your life.
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