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Has anyone noticed this? Iíve noticed people are becoming a lot more snippy and are just rude in general. Not even just to me. But I feel as a society we are not as nice as were before, and things are not being done the right way. This all happened today.

I was at Sonic today. I was the only in the drive thru. I waited 15 minutes for an iced coffee and a drink. 15 minutes passed and the guy said the coffee was bad and he had to make another pot and he told us to pull up. Another 10 minutes came back and he handed us the coffee. I donít usually complain but it seems ridiculous to wait 25 minutes for an iced coffee.

Then my mom wanted to buy something at Home Depot. She had a lot of questions to ask. When we left I looked behind me and I saw the employee roll her eyes dramatically at her other coworker. My mom was not being rude or annoying at all.

Then at the grocery store a lady was blocking an asile with her cart. She didnít move so My mom said that we could go around. The lady said ďperfectĒ in a sarcastic tone.

Itís just this type of stuff Iím noticing more and more and not even with my own family and I but with strangers as well. Should I complain to Sonic about the iced coffee wait? Because I have had issues with this Sonic 3 other times and itís the only one near me. So I canít go to a different one.
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I have this theory that it could have something to do with people having flexible work schedules. Some stores are going to be just as crowded during the weekdays as they are on the weekends. Peoples stress levels are going to be higher if the store is jam packed on a Wednesday at 1PM.
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I don't notice anything different here, people are quite polite and kind. Perhaps part of it relates to location. In Ontario people tend to be quite nice, especially in smaller cities/towns.
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Has anyone noticed this? Iíve noticed people are becoming a lot more snippy and are just rude in general. Not even just to me. But I feel as a society we are not as nice as were before, and things are not being done the right way. This all happened today.

I was at Sonic today. I was the only in the drive thru. I waited 15 minutes for an iced coffee and a drink. 15 minutes passed and the guy said the coffee was bad and he had to make another pot and he told us to pull up. Another 10 minutes came back and he handed us the coffee. I donít usually complain but it seems ridiculous to wait 25 minutes for an iced coffee.

Then my mom wanted to buy something at Home Depot. She had a lot of questions to ask. When we left I looked behind me and I saw the employee roll her eyes dramatically at her other coworker. My mom was not being rude or annoying at all.

Then at the grocery store a lady was blocking an asile with her cart. She didnít move so My mom said that we could go around. The lady said ďperfectĒ in a sarcastic tone.

Itís just this type of stuff Iím noticing more and more and not even with my own family and I but with strangers as well. Should I complain to Sonic about the iced coffee wait? Because I have had issues with this Sonic 3 other times and itís the only one near me. So I canít go to a different one.
I.understand! I had my own problem with sonic and people in general who are rude.
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I complained to Sonic a few minutes ago. I never complain to any company. But I am losing my patiences and a lot of people would probably complain about a 25 minute wait for a single coffee.
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I have not personally noticed more rudeness in my neck of the woods. But I did read that the numbers indicate that "hate crimes" have risen. Though those are obviously two different categories: rudeness and hate crimes.

With regard to rudeness, I make it a point to self-monitor...am I being a peaceful presence everywhere I go? Am I giving people the benefit of the doubt? My brother has something called a negative attribution bias. If we were walking down a busy street and he accidentally got bumped by someone in the crowd, he would immediately assume that someone was out to get him/shoved him on purpose. Whereas I would assume there was a lack of space and it got crowded and then move on with my day.

With regard to rudeness or negative traits in others, I try to train myself not to look for them, if that makes sense. If like my brother, I walked around with a large chip on my shoulder, I'd find all kinds of things to be upset about in others. If I look for goodness in others wherever I go, I am more likely to find it. When I don't find it, I step back from such a person and re-route. It's much much easier said than done but I try.

For example, there is an employee at my local store who irritates me. When I use the self-check (my preference) he hovers around and often gives me directions on how to use the device even though I already know how to do it. I was thinking about this the other day. I could interpret him as arrogant and checking up on me with the hovering or assuming I'm going to steal. Or I could assume that he is trying to be helpful in his own way and takes his job quite seriously. Who knows? I'm not in his mind.
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I complained to Sonic a few minutes ago. I never complain to any company. But I am losing my patiences and a lot of people would probably complain about a 25 minute wait for a single coffee.
Did you say it was the drive-through? Perhaps you would get better service if you go inside? I've done that for food before if I'm in a hurry. Easier to see what's going on and get prompt service.
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I complained to Sonic a few minutes ago. I never complain to any company. But I am losing my patiences and a lot of people would probably complain about a 25 minute wait for a single coffee.
I wonder if they had a coffee machine that was malfunctioning?
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[QUOTE=SilverTrees;6467839]Did you say it was the drive-through? Perhaps you would get better service if you go inside? I've done that for food before if I'm in a hurry. Easier to see what's going on and get prompt service.[/QUOTE

I donít think you can go in at Sonic. I think you can only order at the drive thru or one of those other car ordering machines. I tried ordering from one of those one time and I waited 5 minutes and no one took my order. I never tried one again. But yeah if I could go into Sonic that would be a lot easier.
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I wonder if they had a coffee machine that was malfunctioning?
Maybe thatís what happened. I know their ice cream machine was broken one time.
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