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Old 02-26-2019, 04:36 AM #11
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I typically don't. It's not from a place of heartlessness, but it's something else. We have panhandlers and those as you walk out of a store...do you have any change, do you have any change. Some will walk to close to the car at an intersection. Had one woman walk up to me asking for money, but she's pregnant she said but she's hungry she said so I walked her into the store that I came out of and let her pick out food then I heard her story of losing to the state several other of her kids and she only wanted junk food. I pointed out healthier choices but she wasn't having it. I was on food stamps at the time...I didn't feel swindled per se but...yeah...

To add another story. Once saw one of the panhandlers at a different store a couple of towns over. And yeah...a little shoplifting ring of them.

I'm all set. I have helped in other ways with food rescues or giving trees during holidays and those ways.
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often I don't give money to the homeless.

9 times out of 10, I can't even aford it (I struggle with money as it is)

I have given money to one homeless guy, selling cds of his violin music which is actually quite good (though Im bias, I love the violin) and would probably buy a cd of violin music even if they played it badly
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I do feel really bad for the homeless people who have to sleep in train stations

sooo cold this time of year
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I donate to homeless shelters chain. Itís a wonderful chain, Iíve been in several of their shelters as I sometimes volunteer there:shelters and soup kitchens. In fact amount is being taken out of my card automatically every month.

No I do not carry cash on me hence I wonít be giving anything to beggars. But I also donít have beggars where I live, i am in a rather affluent area. Iíd have to do ton of driving to get to where I might see beggars. But I do my part like donating and volunteering as I said above.

Iíd not shame people who donít give to beggars or dont donate and it doesnít matter why they donít give. No oneís business. People do what they can and want. So do what you feel is right and appropriate. Donít worry about others
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I don't in the town I currently live in. It may sound jaded but I live near a smoke shop that sells cheap beer and I watch them beg for various reasons and then run in and grab beers and smokes. Most live at the homeless shelter. I'm not judging. I'm only just over four months sober. But I never pan handled and lied to strangers to get drinks. When I was pregnant and living in homeless shelters I went through all the steps to better my situation. I get that some people are chemically dependent and desperate. I dunno. I guess I just keep away and say no sorry don't have it..
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I never carry any cash so giving money is not an option. However I have bought a tank of gas or food at a fast food place for them. Since I have a truck I have helped people in need (poor people hauling huge things home up hill in a shipping cart) haul it home in my truck. One time I saw a guy walking what looked to be a bike that wasn't working along the highway by my house. I loaded his bike into my truck & found out where he was heading was several hours away by car (several days by walking a broken bike). It was dinner time...so I grilled dinner, gave him a place to sleep down stairs & drove him home the next day. Sometimes even those who don't beg or ask really appreciate the help. I do things....I don't give money (most times I am just getting through the month financially.
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my old friend used to only give actual things, not money. so if she had a bag of chips or a bottle of water etc. she said if they are truly hungry, they will appreciate it.

personally, i only give if i see a dog with them. i know I'm kind of a jerk but its' just too hard for me to deal with people in general and people asking for money makes me very uncomfortable.... but a dog always wins my heart
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I walk on by making no eye contact. If they persist anyway, I politely tell them I am on assistance too. That usually stops them in their tracks.
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Here in Chicago they are everywhere....one novel solution I saw was in a field trip. All of the students had been given two granola bars to give out if anyone was truly hungry.
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In the past I routinely volunteered to help cook and serve lunch for homeless people and have donated to food banks. I would rather contribute in either or both of these ways, but it would be tempting to give food.
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