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Recently I realized that I was spending A LOT of money on breakfast made my a local restaurant and delivered to me. Sometimes when i wake up I feel too depressed to get up right away. I spend enough time in bed so that when I finally do get up, it's almost noon and I haven't eaten. I think "Order breakfast because you have to eat".

I tried to curb my spending by limiting myself to spending maybe $25 a week on delivered breakfast. I'm trying to budget and save money. It's hard because I have already broken this guideline. I ordered breakfast for three days in a row. I know I can't do it for the rest of the week.

How can I deal with this issue? Is there an easier way to deal with it? I could just eat cereal or yogurt, but a hot breakfast is so comforting and warm to me. I know that having food prepared for me by other people is a part of the psychological effect. I want to be cared for.
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Recently I realized that I was spending A LOT of money on breakfast made my a local restaurant and delivered to me. Sometimes when i wake up I feel too depressed to get up right away. I spend enough time in bed so that when I finally do get up, it's almost noon and I haven't eaten. I think "Order breakfast because you have to eat".

I tried to curb my spending by limiting myself to spending maybe $25 a week on delivered breakfast. I'm trying to budget and save money. It's hard because I have already broken this guideline. I ordered breakfast for three days in a row. I know I can't do it for the rest of the week.

How can I deal with this issue? Is there an easier way to deal with it? I could just eat cereal or yogurt, but a hot breakfast is so comforting and warm to me. I know that having food prepared for me by other people is a part of the psychological effect. I want to be cared for.
make things ahead of time..... I have young children. one of the things that comes in handy is my wife and I cook breakfast items (french toast in many different flavors, pancaked in many different flavors, suasage, bacon, hash browns, scrambled eggs, breakfast burritos) then we freeze them with ziplock baggies.

then on those days that are hectic and cooking takes too long we just reach into the freezer. take something out and microwave or in a toaster depending upon the item .... breakfast ready in about 2-5 minutes (the time it takes to walk to freezer, take out item and microwave or heat in a toaster)
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make things ahead of time..... I have young children. one of the things that comes in handy is my wife and I cook breakfast items (french toast in many different flavors, pancaked in many different flavors, suasage, bacon, hash browns, scrambled eggs, breakfast burritos) then we freeze them with ziplock baggies.

then on those days that are hectic and cooking takes too long we just reach into the freezer. take something out and microwave or in a toaster depending upon the item .... breakfast ready in about 2-5 minutes (the time it takes to walk to freezer, take out item and microwave or heat in a toaster)
This is a great idea! Thank you!
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It's a matter of changing your thought process.

You have to be honest if you are ordering breakfast because it is really the "good thing to do to yourself" or if it is an excuse to eat and spend money on the pleasures of food. For me, it would be the latter; when I'm depressed, food is one of my only pleasures.
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Definitely pre-plan your meals as has been mentioned. I am a single person and it's sooo hard to cook for one. If you can pre-plan and then freeze them, you are good to go.

I know some people who spend Sunday making and freezing all their meals for the week. Then they don't have to worry and stress about it. That might be an option for you.
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Definitely pre-plan your meals as has been mentioned. I am a single person and it's sooo hard to cook for one. If you can pre-plan and then freeze them, you are good to go.

I know some people who spend Sunday making and freezing all their meals for the week. Then they don't have to worry and stress about it. That might be an option for you.
Yes, now I only cook for myself so you're right that it's hard to cook for just me. I think that is part of the problem.

I think I will spend the weekend figuring out a meal plan. Thank you for your help!
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Give yourself an allowance. Put away your debit and credit cards (I used to put mine in the freezer) and then give yourself a set amount of cash to spend in a week. Maybe budget a little higher and wean yourself down to your desired budget over the course of a few weeks. When such luxuries as restaurant food come up as a wish, take a look at that cash you have and decide if you are prepared to give up a necessity.

Evaluate too what your necessities are and the luxury wish list you have.

I'd like to know why you are ordering out in the first place. What is triggering this? What is the urge? What would you much rather have instead? What could you be saving up for? And what is the trigger too causing you to avoid taking a small amount of time to prepare your own hot breakfast or brunch?

I cook a big breakfast once a week and I swear it takes less than 15min to do so. This is far less time than the effort to pick-up your phone to place that order, wait for it to then be prepared, followed by the time it takes to be delivered.

If, in your evaluation, you find you can not do without said meal, would you be able to at least save the delivery charges by either picking it up yourself or eating it at the restaurant?

So many ideas are coming to mind. These are just a few.
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When did you start ordering food ?? Did something happen? I see you posted about sleeping too much, that could be part of the driving force ? Depressed? If so are you getting treatment for it ? Seeing a Therapist.

I agree with using cash, if your favorite place requires to prepay maybe it will have you actually wanting to go there and enjoy a meal.
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Why not broaden your breakfast eats? Soup is simply bliss in a bowl. Especially if it's homemade. And we're not just talking taste here. It can be made ahead, so easily frozen and just reheated in a pan or microwave. Soup is the perfect comfort food. It brings so many ingredients together in the pot and distinct tastes together at the table. Soup is an easy meal whatever the weather, whatever the season. What's more, soup lends itself to being made in big batches, so you've got plenty of leftovers to enjoy later without further fuss.

As a broth or tomato-based, soup itself can be a wholesome and nutritious meal. For few calories and little fat, you can enjoy soups that rank high in satisfaction and nutritional value, which my family love. And then there are cupboard finds, such as egetable stock cubes, dried fried onion and Bovril are great standbys as is Lee & Perrins Worcester Sauce. Not forgetting good honey.

Or use up cupboard and fridge food to make a splendid Mexican breakfast, treating yourself to a Saturday morning breakfast bonanza! There is a brilliant recipe for Mexican Breakfast by Jerusalem born Yotam Ottolenghi. I have the recipe for it if you can't find it.
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Give yourself an allowance. Put away your debit and credit cards (I used to put mine in the freezer) and then give yourself a set amount of cash to spend in a week. Maybe budget a little higher and wean yourself down to your desired budget over the course of a few weeks. When such luxuries as restaurant food come up as a wish, take a look at that cash you have and decide if you are prepared to give up a necessity.

Evaluate too what your necessities are and the luxury wish list you have.

I'd like to know why you are ordering out in the first place. What is triggering this? What is the urge? What would you much rather have instead? What could you be saving up for? And what is the trigger too causing you to avoid taking a small amount of time to prepare your own hot breakfast or brunch?

I cook a big breakfast once a week and I swear it takes less than 15min to do so. This is far less time than the effort to pick-up your phone to place that order, wait for it to then be prepared, followed by the time it takes to be delivered.

If, in your evaluation, you find you can not do without said meal, would you be able to at least save the delivery charges by either picking it up yourself or eating it at the restaurant?

So many ideas are coming to mind. These are just a few.
Yes, the allowance idea is a good one. I mentioned that I am trying to budget and I limit myself to $25 per week.

I did say what I believe is triggering this in my original post. I order online, and the cafe is just a few minutes away, so it typically takes 15 minutes to get my order. Delivery is free, btw.
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