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Old 11-24-2018, 06:46 AM #11
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What you do is rebuild yourself and your own dreams again..... step by step, inch by inch, and when you're ready. Your future fell apart with a man who tried to destroy you. I am glad you are out of that relationship! Now it's time to focus on you, what you want and what you need in life to be happy. If you're living with your parents, then a good goal would be to save enough money to be living on your own again. Step by step...
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True.
Itís better to avoid bad people. This is a gift they gave to me. Before, it was likely I would have not be happy, with them.
Now I could have this possibility.
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Itís better to avoid bad people. This is a gift they gave to me. Before, it was likely I would have not be happy, with them.
Now I could have this possibility.
That's a great way to view it!!!! It IS a gift. The gift of freedom and the gift of happiness in life.
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Half of more than 15 years are 8 years....
:\ That's why I say it's perhaps a fallacy and I've never truly tested the theory. It does give pause to the concept of giving yourself time to reclaim yourself. I'm one to have given myself the first year as a grieving period.
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Iím not looking for another relationship now. Iíve dated a guy I knew, but we were talking of ďfried airĒ. He was frightend by my past, frightened to be inferior to my ex, and also not so fair. Sincerely Iím tired of thiking how great I must be, for people who donít give anything.
So be myself and greetings to all. I will recover. I will have a future. I will have a beautiful life. Me and my future cat😉.
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Iím not looking for another relationship now. Iíve dated a guy I knew, but we were talking of ďfried airĒ. He was frightend by my past, frightened to be inferior to my ex, and also not so fair. Sincerely Iím tired of thiking how great I must be, for people who donít give anything.
So be myself and greetings to all. I will recover. I will have a future. I will have a beautiful life. Me and my future cat😉.
You are incredibly young Azzurrella! And what if you were 95 years old! There will be plenty of dating if you want, plenty of good friends if you want, a warm cozy home, but you need to give yourself plenty of time to heal, there are no miracle remedies, it's going to be painful at times, so make sure you look after yourself and do whatever it takes to be fine, healthy, in the path to recovery and happiness. Sorround yourself with the right people, explain your pain as many times as you need, don't be afraid to seek help if needed, either from friends, family, therapists.
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it's a slow process and something that you cannot rush. Thing is to work on focusing on yourself, good things in your life even when it doesn't seem like there's much, work on it. I have been through being left by a spouse and for me it was a full year to feel ok-ish and longer to find my footing and independence. although it was very painful I can say without question that it does pass eventually and there can be good things ahead but you gotta believe in that and claim it for yourself.
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So 1 year passed, and I have not found yet anything to make me happy, or a destination. My GPS is ko, I donít know where to go. One year passed from listening that my marriage was ended, in a butterfly flap we closed everything, just to end 2 moths ago with divorce. I live it as a personal failure, the biggest failure in my imperfect life, while I feel envy for him, who has everything. I was thrown in the trash. Ok, in happens. Hope to forget.
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First thing I would say to your last response is that it is not necessarily a personal failure on your part. There are a lot of factors involved in making a relationship work and you are not entirely responsible for everything going right or wrong. if a relationship fails there are two people to blame and even if you think you failed in some things you must stop carrying the entire weight of the breakup on your shoulders.
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