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Fiancé cheated during a manic phase.
My fiancé is bipolar, several years ago was into the BDSM scene. Back in September she met a man also into BDSM and the two began talking. She has been telling me she once again wants to explore the lifestyle, I reluctantly agreeded. So she invited this man over and several hours into his visit they had sex. Do I blame the manic phase or her.
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10-27-2018, 08:49 AM
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Re: Fiancé cheated during a manic phase.
I suppose her? She said she wanted to explore the lifestyle with another man. However you've said you agreed so I'm not sure if you can really say anything to her...
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10-27-2018, 02:37 PM
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Re: Fiancé cheated during a manic phase.
Hmm... did she really cheat though if you gave her the green light? I think it's a combination of her and the bipolar. I heard that during manic phases, bi polar people can become overly sexually activated.
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11-02-2018, 11:37 PM
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Re: Fiancé cheated during a manic phase.
Mania is a condition, not an excuse.
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11-03-2018, 10:27 PM
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Re: Fiancé cheated during a manic phase.
When you open the door to agreeing to that lifestyle you just ask for trouble & she was more than willing. If that is not acceptable yiu maybe should look for someone whobfits your values better.
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Re: Fiancé cheated during a manic phase.
When you agreed to let her explore the lifestyle, did you mean only with you or with other people? Sounds like she thought you were giving her the ok for an open relationship. If you're not ok with that, you need to tell her.
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Re: Fiancé cheated during a manic phase.
Is she taking responsibility in managing her symptoms (therapy, medication)?
You said you reluctantly agreed. If you really want a closed relationship, then you don't need to compromise. You don't need to sacrifice your core values just to keep her around. |
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Re: Fiancé cheated during a manic phase.
Did you agree to the third party or just the lifestyle?
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