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Old 05-16-2018, 03:38 PM   #1
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He did what I feared he did and now I have proof. All that time he let me ***** and moan while he lied to my face. Heís going to have to make good on it. And now I donít feel like the bad guy.

Iím numb and in shock how he lied to my face and did what he wanted to anyway. Here I said my trust issues make me insecure and I had every reason to be. Trust your gut! Mineís never been wrong.
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Now I see the pattern of passive/aggressive disrespect and disregard. He undermined the whole marriage. I was emotionally freaked out because I felt the neglect and deception.

Watch out for the quiet ones!
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Old 05-17-2018, 06:18 AM   #3
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I had to divorce him to make him come clean with his financial records. He is caught red handed. Then he grasped at straws trying to explain it with a ridiculous excuse.

I have never had a more awkward moment. And Iíve had plenty of those!

Yes, I was gaslighted and now I will call it abused by a narcissist. This was crazy!
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Old 05-17-2018, 07:30 AM   #4
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Is it any wonder I have trust issues? This man lied to my face about his honesty and that I am paranoid not to trust him. Meanwhile, he was not trustworthy!!!

I am surprised. I really believed him. And yet, I think HE even believed his own BS because he looked surprised when caught. I am scratching my head searching for what happened... seriously, crazy
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Old 05-17-2018, 08:18 AM   #5
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Tisha,

What did he do? Sorry I'm not up to speed. I believe you, but what did you catch him at?

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What did he do? Sorry I'm not up to speed. I believe you, but what did you catch him at?

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Anyone who knows me over the last few years on here has seen me be hysterical and bewildered over our intimacy issues. Well... My sister thinks he tormented and gaslighted me over these issues to keep me so upset and confused so that I didnít nail him for how he was carrying on over money.
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Old 05-19-2018, 07:40 AM   #8
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Am I disliked on PC? I think itís strange that I got zero support on this thread. Oh well, I always soothe myself, anyway.

I do appreciate the one hug, though.
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I must give kudos to my mom, who at least absorbed this when I told her and said she was sorry that I went through all that I did with this man.
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I don't think you are disliked here. This thread has kinda gotten lost because it's in a subforum so the other relationship thread show up on the main view.

How did he make money disappear? I thought you managed the finances?

Well, as to the gaslighting, I had frankly thought that for a while, but you had kept defending that the marriage was good/he was good to you...well, sometimes you would get mad, but then you would flip flop back to wanting to stay. I am glad it's finally clear to you. At least you can be firm in wanting to move on. You deserve so much more than the scraps he has given you all these years. And the sexual/emotional trauma, time to get rid of that.

What's next now with the separation/divorce? How much did he make disappear? Did he steal it or spend it? Is it just hidden? Are you separated now or still living together?

I am glad you are no longer falling for this man's lies.

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