[manyinsiders]

Hi,
I learned here that I used the term polyfragmented incorrectly.
We have DID. We don’t have a single alter who is in control most of the time.
We have a large number of alters.
We meet new alters regularly, we don’t know if they are actually new or newly coming forward.
Maybe someone here can help me understand that.
Sincerely, Spice from manyinsiders

[AlwaysChanging2]

The word fragment doesn’t bother us, when you have parts of parts of parts down to an obliterated memory...what diff does it make?

Poly-frag is just an adjective, so what? I’m poly-fragged that as a group we are co-present and co-hosting. It’s a constant moment to moment battle to appear “normal”, more hoping though then not.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by manyinsiders

Hi,
I learned here that I used the term polyfragmented incorrectly.
We have DID. We don’t have a single alter who is in control most of the time.
We have a large number of alters.
We meet new alters regularly, we don’t know if they are actually new or newly coming forward.
Maybe someone here can help me understand that.
Sincerely, Spice from manyinsiders

I dont see it that you did any thing wrong. you stated in one of your posts you were diagnosed in the 1980's so you were using the term in the way many people did back then.

now that you are dealing with this and many other issues here in 2018 you will be finding many things, diagnosis's, definitions, all kinds of good stuff have been changed for the better.

As you learn new ways and everything that has happened in the mental health side since 1980, it may seem overwhelming and all. Just take it one step at a time and remember you have not done anything wrong. time just continued to move forwards and things change..

just a weird thought..... I once saw this made up movie about this family who lived for decades in a underground bunker because they thought a war or the end of the world was going to happen. then the day to go back to the surface came and the now grown son comes up to the surface and sees that things have changed and he has to adjust to this new world of changes.

sometimes DID is like that. life outside us continues on when we sometimes
dont realize it and one day we sort of wake up and get hit with a whole new world of changes.

you will be learning lots of new things here on psych central, as everyone around the world posts about their selves, whats what in their parts of the world and with in their selves.

[Amyjay]

manyinsiders, I am so sorry that your first experience of this forum was to be told that the way you think of yourself is "wrong". It saddens me that you have taken that to heart so. A support forum is supposed to be one of support, not dictatorship. You are not "wrong", you are you. (Plural.)

There is nothing wrong with your use of the term polyfragmentation. It was and is an adjective in much the same way that "coconscious" can be used to describe a system. On another forum there are posters that have had their therapists describe their systems as "polyfragmented". Again - it is an adjective. It never was a diagnostic term and it doesn't have to be for you to use it as you do. No, it isn't a diagnostic term (it never was, and was never used as such), but it conveys information and it is OKAY to use it.

Even if some people don't like it or wish you wouldn't.

[Betty_Banana]

When I read the term I just assume it means many alters.Kind of like how some say insiders. or others,alters or headmates and other terms.It's fine to use whatever terms you're comfortable using.

[Betty_Banana]

Also just wanted to add that my therapist always said MPD instead of DID.He said it was mostly just habit.It didn't really matter though because he helped me recover and the term used had nothing to do with it at all.

[AlwaysChanging2]

Yeah, I myself am not a walking talking textbook. Just one of the used and abused and I get what you mean. Welcome to the farm.

[MickeyCheeky]

((((manyinsiders))))

[amandalouise]

I wanted to say again thank you many insiders for asking in the other thread that others who believe differently to post about it, that told me you wanted to know both sides of the word and were ready for those of us who are under a different ways/ definitions and such to post to you about it.

I also want to say again like already stated in this thread... you did nothing wrong. you are using the term in the way that you learned back in 1980's those of us who see the word and definitions different have a different understanding of the word.

no one has told you that you are posting wrong or making you feel you did wrong. you asked those of us with a different view to post and I did what you asked. thank you for being open minded and wanting to learn both sides of this word and definition.

[Betty_Banana]

Originally Posted by manyinsiders

We meet new alters regularly, we don’t know if they are actually new or newly coming forward.
Maybe someone here can help me understand that.

Most likely those are alters that have always been there and you are just now becoming aware of them.

(I say "most likely" because I know it's possible for new ones to come about due to new traumas in someone that already has DID.I don't know if that's your situation or not)