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Old 08-21-2008, 03:52 PM   #21
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Wow! =] I wish I can tell my doctor about my circumstance... I don't have very obvious alters since they rarely come out, but I can't tell anyone about my circumstances...I can't tell my family either, so I can't tell my doctor. =( I really want to improve though, and I have the feeling I can't do it alone... My family will probably mock me again if I tell them. After they found out I was cutting myself, they laughed at me saying that I thought everything was "painful" and so forth. I can only imagine how they will laugh at me if I tell them about my DID....lol
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Old 08-27-2008, 05:57 AM   #22
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Old 09-10-2008, 09:56 AM   #23
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In another thread I saw a post where the person was not sure about seeing the doctor because She would have to explain about having DID. So I thought I would post how I told my doctor. Hope this helps a few people here.

I was diagnosed MPD (which is now called DID) back in 1989. From then on I refused to see my doctor for physicals and so on. then in 2001 I entered therapy after years away from it and this therapist and I were working on my DID and I had to see my primary physician (who is also my gyn.) for a physical and meds. I didn't want to go for many reasons my having to tell mental health history was one of them. She explained to me that I don't HAVE to diclose to him my DID but It would be in my best interest for example I always lose time during the internal and my records show that one time I laugh hysterically to the point where the equipment is pushed out, other times I stiffen up What happens if one of these time Margo (a violent memory piece) gets activated. I could get seriously hurt or transported to a mental health unit because my doctor does not know what is going on. I agree with her and say ok so how do I tell him?

She said think about what you know about DID, the basics.

Ok DID starts with dissociation.
yes. what is dissociation?
Daydreaming yourself into a mental safe place when there is no physical escape.
yes. what are NORMAL acts of dissociation?
Riding or driving a car and thinking about other things instead of hit the break here, turn the corner there, daydreaming during a boring class, getting so involved in a movie that you don't pay attention to anything outside the movie.
Yes. Do you think your doctor does any of those activities.?
Yea he drives a car and likes watching movies and he had to have had alot of boring classes to become a doctor.
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I get him talking about daydreaming during those activities first then tell him that I daydreamed to get away from my stepfather so much that now the Dissociation testing shows that I am a 9-10 on the dissociation scale.
You got it.

So I went to my doctor. First I had to get him to talk off the record because my lawyer told my therapist not to disclose my DID to the DHS caseworker at that time. That was easy. he's used to my saying "officially Im doing ok" since the DHS case has been going. So he did his official exam then hams it up by leaving the room and enters again saying oops wrong room I'm not here right now.

Then I told him just like my therapist and I rehearsed - I got him talking about daydreaming while working and so on then said theres tests called DES and DDIS that I took a long time ago and I was a 10 then.

He looked at me and said and now?
havent taken the test, lawyer says no because DHS will have access to it.
uhhuh hmmmmmmmmmm Can I have your therapist name and number since I am prescribing your medication for depression it won't ring any bells for her and I to confer about your depression/PTSD treatment plans.

I smiled and gave him the information and signed a release form so the two could talk.

Now during internals I take my walkman with me and his female nurse stands right next to me so that the two of us talk through the exam. at the least uncomfortable feeling, flashbacks and so on my primary physician ends the exam.

I have not lost time, or faded into my tunnel area during exams since and I am no longer afraid or dreading the internals.
Myself, thanks so much for that post. thanks for your bravery and honesty. and thanks for sharing so much. words cant describe the fear that we experience if we have to see a doctor. armed with what you have shared, maybe it wont be so bad this time.

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In another thread I saw a post where the person was not sure about seeing the doctor because She would have to explain about having DID. So I thought I would post how I told my doctor. Hope this helps a few people here.

I was diagnosed MPD (which is now called DID) back in 1989. From then on I refused to see my doctor for physicals and so on. then in 2001 I entered therapy after years away from it and this therapist and I were working on my DID and I had to see my primary physician (who is also my gyn.) for a physical and meds. I didn't want to go for many reasons my having to tell mental health history was one of them. She explained to me that I don't HAVE to diclose to him my DID but It would be in my best interest for example I always lose time during the internal and my records show that one time I laugh hysterically to the point where the equipment is pushed out, other times I stiffen up What happens if one of these time Margo (a violent memory piece) gets activated. I could get seriously hurt or transported to a mental health unit because my doctor does not know what is going on. I agree with her and say ok so how do I tell him?

She said think about what you know about DID, the basics.

Ok DID starts with dissociation.
yes. what is dissociation?
Daydreaming yourself into a mental safe place when there is no physical escape.
yes. what are NORMAL acts of dissociation?
Riding or driving a car and thinking about other things instead of hit the break here, turn the corner there, daydreaming during a boring class, getting so involved in a movie that you don't pay attention to anything outside the movie.
Yes. Do you think your doctor does any of those activities.?
Yea he drives a car and likes watching movies and he had to have had alot of boring classes to become a doctor.
So...
I get him talking about daydreaming during those activities first then tell him that I daydreamed to get away from my stepfather so much that now the Dissociation testing shows that I am a 9-10 on the dissociation scale.
You got it.

So I went to my doctor. First I had to get him to talk off the record because my lawyer told my therapist not to disclose my DID to the DHS caseworker at that time. That was easy. he's used to my saying "officially Im doing ok" since the DHS case has been going. So he did his official exam then hams it up by leaving the room and enters again saying oops wrong room I'm not here right now.

Then I told him just like my therapist and I rehearsed - I got him talking about daydreaming while working and so on then said theres tests called DES and DDIS that I took a long time ago and I was a 10 then.

He looked at me and said and now?
havent taken the test, lawyer says no because DHS will have access to it.
uhhuh hmmmmmmmmmm Can I have your therapist name and number since I am prescribing your medication for depression it won't ring any bells for her and I to confer about your depression/PTSD treatment plans.

I smiled and gave him the information and signed a release form so the two could talk.

Now during internals I take my walkman with me and his female nurse stands right next to me so that the two of us talk through the exam. at the least uncomfortable feeling, flashbacks and so on my primary physician ends the exam.

I have not lost time, or faded into my tunnel area during exams since and I am no longer afraid or dreading the internals.

thank you for posting this, i was wondering if i was the only one going through this, i think reading this has helped me and also will help me at doctor next time, im a newbie here but i think i have found the right place.
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Old 01-19-2009, 10:48 AM   #25
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i've been in the same medical care group for about 10 or more years - part of the d.i.d. is that i can't remember the past 10 years clearly.

for many years i had severe migraines, fibromyalgia, severe depression and a whole bunch of petty junk that was always going on. i was also a pain-pill addict also.

i have always had a tendency to tell the truth and take the consequences because, i have no logical idea why i do that. it is sort of stupid sometimes. i have been treated like the village idiot, a drug seeker, middle-aged weakling and like a person who is suffering and rarely like someone thought i was brave to keep going.

my current family med. doc. knows the basics, treats me decently and doesn't ever act like i am an idiot. he's one of my heroes. i do not have many of those.

i'll be honest, my mom died of breast cancer 16 years ago and i still can't make myself do a gyn checkup. i even know how stupid that behavior is but i just can't do it. maybe this year.

thank you for sharing "myself" if you are still reading here!

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Old 01-19-2009, 12:51 PM   #27
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Hang in there - nervousness and anxiety and panic - all of that does pass, and it feels better sooner than later.
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I just had spinal fusion surgery and after being diagnosis with DID in 1988. After all these years and many doctors visits later. I decided to face it head on with the doctor and the hospital. I came out a few weeks ahead and explained it all and told them what was probably going to happen. That Katie my 5 year old alter who always took the pain for me would probably be out before surgery when they IV was started and would probably be out in recovery. I could just see the RNS thinking i was in shock with me talking like a little girl. I was in the hospital for 5 days and the first 3 days i was doped up on morphine katie was in and out alot but with me telling the doctors and taking control of the situation the doctors and nurses were on the same page and they worked together for my pain management and talked together. Instead of me feeling like a freak i felt like they understood.. In fact, my doctor and surgeon told me that he learned so much during my stay in the hospital that he was going to be able to us with his other patients and he appreciated me telling his ahead of time. He was appreciateive of me sharing it with him and the nurses were too. It was such a positive experience. ALL around.
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Thank you so much for posting this! I'm having surgery for thyroid cancer in June and couldn't imagine how I would cope. I haven't had good results trying to talk to others about DID. I am allergic to all narcotic pain relievers, so I won't be doped up enough not to care if I switch.
This gives me some hope. It's still very scary too.
 
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Hi, I just got registered and read what was written, but don't know how to type in on an answer i guess this is it I'm Karen and I'm in Dallas...my primary doc knows I'm DID, but so far , no problems.
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Thank you I have had to live down the stigma of DID. but in the end I found it was just easier to be myself. it took me two years, a 1/2 dozen public blow ups but people are finely getting the picture that I remember things. My t asked me why I did it. the only thing that I could say is I'm just like the other path builders. I remember the black woman taking the front set. the gay/lesbin fighting for a job and all those others that endured the pain of being on the front line. In the end I would not have made it had not been the veterns that believed in me. I am not telling everyone to speak out there are times that I wish I was still in the closet. but now people knew and I hope that more people will understand us. This page is also helping us to keep the faith. thank you all for being so honest and helpful.
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