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Old 02-22-2019, 01:20 PM   #11
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Old 02-22-2019, 02:22 PM   #12
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I mean, what's the point of being alive if you have no one you feel comfortable with telling about something GOOD that happened? Let alone when you don't have anyone to hang out with and experience life with.

Based on most people's definition of friends, I wouldn't have any friends. And I really don't. I won't be dating again, which was my only shot in having someone to hang out with. I won't have a family now and no one/nothing outside of my job once I've finished the classes and get a job in my new career path.

I had to leave my last job in order to take the necessary classes...and my long time significant other had to leave right after that. Why not wait until I had a better job to fill my time or he got a job in another state? Why set us both up to be lonely and miserable. It's not like either one of us will find anyone else.
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I mean, what's the point of being alive if you have no one you feel comfortable with telling about something GOOD that happened? Let alone when you don't have anyone to hang out with and experience life with.



Based on most people's definition of friends, I wouldn't have any friends. And I really don't. I won't be dating again, which was my only shot in having someone to hang out with. I won't have a family now and no one/nothing outside of my job once I've finished the classes and get a job in my new career path.



I had to leave my last job in order to take the necessary classes...and my long time significant other had to leave right after that. Why not wait until I had a better job to fill my time or he got a job in another state? Why set us both up to be lonely and miserable. It's not like either one of us will find anyone else.


Hi Mate, speaking as a lonely wolf like you, who doesn’t have a pack either. I can just say don’t lose hope. I am also in the darkness at times and try to look for the light. And may be this light is not something we can wait for rather we need to spark it, like an old engine that doesn’t work, take out each part and replace some with new ones, keep the core parts which is the you inside but make them better, slowly figuring out the new you. And most likely you will get up and running again, all you needed is a few spare parts, some effort to repair the damaged areas and you will be back on your feet. This perhaps then will give you many “AHA” moments to put you on a positive spiral, changing how you see things, how you communicate, how you do things. The new better version of you is out there mate and I am saying this to me as well every minute of every day. And it does work. Perhaps we will be up and running at the same time. Keep the hope my friend and know that you are not alone in this journey. Many polar bear hugs!
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Old 02-22-2019, 10:03 PM   #14
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I can't even talk to other people anymore...it just makes me feel more ashamed to be me, to be alive. I regret living past 25. My life ended then. And now on top of that, I had to experience what I thought was someone who loved me (probably a lie though) so NOW I KNOW WHAT I'M MISSING.

But anyone replying will just say they're happier single, but that DOES NOT HELP. That makes me feel more ASHAMED for having needs. For having wants which are apparently just so wrong to have.

I'm wrong, I'm stupid, I'm a loser, WHATEVER. QUIT BULLYING ME.
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Old 02-24-2019, 04:05 PM   #15
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Well, it's been three days essentially on my own. It's slightly better today I guess, but the silence really bothers me. I'm just so done with this school crap. I just want to go back to working full time...something with a consistent schedule so my sleep and eating don't get messed up. Then I can be around people everyday again too...
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Love your inner child, perhaps some company can be found within.....
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I am having so much trouble being motivated. I have to get so far ahead in my classes because they're going to pile on a huge amount of work the same week that I'm busiest this semester.

I'm just so burned out. I don't really find joy in much of this. I find joy mostly in belonging and well, getting my basic needs met.

It looks like one of the only ways I can "belong" to people is to just be used. How does anyone ever make a mutually beneficial friendship/relationship anyway?
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I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, Skulls&Crossbones Please remember that you're not a bad person. There are many wonderful people in this world who are lonely, but that doesn't make them any less wonderful. For many people it's hard to understand some of the kindest, more sensitive souls like you or many other people here on PC. It doesn't make you a bad person. You're a wonderful person who's struggling right now. I'm so sorry. It must be very hard. Remember that you're not alone here on PC. We all care about you. We all love you here. Keep writing here if it helps. Feel free to vent here as much as you want. You know we will never judge you. You're a wonderful person. I hope you'll be able to find someone who will truly accept you and love you for who you truly are. You deserve it. You deserve to be loved just like everyone else. Try to hang on. Remember that things won't stay like this forever. They can and will get better. Please don't give up. You have so much more to give to this world. You will get better. You just need to believe in yourself a little bit. You're a wonderful person. Stay strong, Skulls&Crossbones. Stay safe and take care of yourself. You're awesome! You're strong! You're a warrior! Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this
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