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Old 11-08-2018, 02:04 AM   #1
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Hi friends, lately I am having a difficult time with loneliness, do you know a way on how to cope? Appreciate your support as always . Love and hugs.
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Hi friends, lately I am having a difficult time with loneliness, do you know a way on how to cope? Appreciate your support as always . Love and hugs.
Hi. I see you are in Tokyo. Loneliness is really a world wide epidemic. I get the impression that japan has quite a different culture ( and to us maybe a bit strange) to the us and the uk, but i guess the same applies. Join clubs , when you are out talk to people, join common interest groups, exercise with people. Rather than trying too hard to find a friend, feel good about yourself first, be positive, ditch negative people. Positive, friendly, open ( not narcissistic or egocentric) people attract people, negative people repel people or attract like minded people who find comfort in misery. Just my thoughts. Good luck.

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I got a dog. Hugs.
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We have something here called meet ups where people with similar interests (like movie buffs) get together and do activities. Do you have any opportunities like that in Tokyo? Pets also help.
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Here's a link to an article by DocJohn, from PsychCentral's archives, on coping with loneliness. It provides links to a number of additional articles on the subject:

Loneliness & Being Lonely - Psych Central

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Thank you guys for all the advice I will look into what you suggested and try to apply it. Japan can be very only work oriented country and if not drink it out with alcohol which I canít as I am medicated and alcohol is no friend. I need recreational positive people around me. Will try to do my best.
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Hi. I see you are in Tokyo. Loneliness is really a world wide epidemic. I get the impression that japan has quite a different culture ( and to us maybe a bit strange) to the us and the uk, but i guess the same applies. Join clubs , when you are out talk to people, join common interest groups, exercise with people. Rather than trying too hard to find a friend, feel good about yourself first, be positive, ditch negative people. Positive, friendly, open ( not narcissistic or egocentric) people attract people, negative people repel people or attract like minded people who find comfort in misery. Just my thoughts. Good luck.
iT IS a world wide problem??with the NET???WHAT A JOKE!!"COMMUNICATION FOR computer experts who don't like real people."

one of the things is,if you have "mental or emotional problems" most people don't want to know you.I tried for years to fit into Eugene Oregon,when i came3 back.(i was a native.)I may as well be on the moon.when you are a senior i notice everyone sticks to their old friends,desperately, and new "different"(no hubby, no kids, no lots of money,cuz you are alone; on social security)Disabled people don't stick together, i found that out.

strangely, there is now NO GROUP IN EUGENE for people with Depression ect other stuff, to go to.They did away with any they had.Lane County mental health is VERY RESTRICTED.--i can't get in

.I tried to get into a senior discussion group, it had ten members.TEN MEMBERS??WOW I'd have to yell to be heard!!I gave up,did not go, too big..I now have no relatives,they all hate my family,and my sister never comes here

.You know FAMILY for depressed people is like going back to the dog that bit you,and asking him for medical help with the BITE.YEAH.We seniors and depressed people get very isolated, they don't want us for friends.even other disabled people were not friendly. oww!!

Don't go to a bar,then you have different problems--worse.yeah,i tried joining groups for years, what a failure.I gave up on the local synagouge i could not stand how liberal they were!!AND the place is HUGE,its a little like going to a bar,with religion."Super liberal!!"no natives go there, we aren't rich enough.

(I think a lot of depressed people are not RICH ENOUGH for the present society of the USA.I don't like snotty people in Eugene--what phonies!!Like going to a cocktail party for icebergs.Yeah, we on soc. sec. are too poor for this town any more.I'm stuck here,so i stopped going EVERYWHERE, it did not work.Politics is awful here,people live to hate and fight over it.--that describes Eugene Oregon.(very isolated.)
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"ditch people who are negative."don't let all that depression leak out!!You should "jolly up" exactly like normal folks.I am sorry, that is what I tried,joining groups,being friendly, and I guess being a LITTLE depressed or "you obviously have mental stuff,or depression, where's your meth?Take your Meth, no problemo!!or get some local dope!!"(marijuana is now legal in the state of Oregon.--includes Eugene.I don't smoke it, Man.)

Many outsiders have crowded into Eugene, it's now exactly like L.A.--we even got gangs with guns shooting up the public library(where many homeless people really live)We have L.A. TRAFFIC AND FREEWAYS.that alone is very depressing.(my cat is depressed, her "friend" didn't show up,local home care worker.--cat loves her--she has a migraine.) I should joi n that gang-pizza-beer-weight problems i already have.ok, i'llk get a pizza!!!"eat your way out of lonliness!!"
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Hi friends, lately I am having a difficult time with loneliness, do you know a way on how to cope? Appreciate your support as always . Love and hugs.
Well, I have the "conditions that make lonliness."I know that.I have enough PTSD to fill Autzen Stadium.I'm poor.(no society likes the poor--not in America..)I an so overwhelmed, lately,i read an article"ADHD AND ADAD.(??)

I probably have adult ADHD i have ALL THOSE SYMPTOMS--no one here knows about ADHD FOR ADULTS,AT ALL.I kind of gave up on therapy from one person.I did it for years,and now I don't trust therapists or like them.so,it says"90 % of adult women with ADHD never get diagnosed for it."--ok, what, no therapy for it?? We have a "all psychiatrists and medical people leaving Oregon, no money here."yep, sorry. Our state has lots of people with govt, health insurance, i guess doctors don't like it.Anyone? know how to get treated for this ADHD ?
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Hi friends, lately I am having a difficult time with loneliness, do you know a way on how to cope? Appreciate your support as always . Love and hugs.
I feel like this all the time myself! My problem is I have no way to get around to meet people. I don't drive and cab and bus don't run in my area.
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