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Old 10-04-2018, 03:01 PM   #81
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Little Turtle, has your wife always been hurtful, or did she become hurtful over time or after an event?

she came that way...she is very smart....but very critical of me...she is a good talker...I am not a good talker...but I am learning...even now after 63 years of marriage...
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I’d probably have learnt the same thing.. with someone else. To be a good talker. How the **** do I teach myself that and all those other skills.

And there is at least one N in papa bears family. I do not “like” them ......

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she came that way...she is very smart....but very critical of me...she is a good talker...I am not a good talker...but I am learning...even now after 63 years of marriage...
I am usually very calm and quiet. Years ago, I could see that I could easily out talk my husband though. This only made me be more cautious about giving him enough time to express himself, encouraging him to be fully honest with me, etc. We are more apt to overcome life challenges as a team.

I bite my tongue and take a few deep breaths while I make sure I am giving him the floor and also make sure I am listening and I validate him/his concerns.

I am very sorry your wife has chosen to be critical of you. Have you been able to tell her you feel this way?


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I am very unhappy in my marriage...I just feel she takes me down..
I do not trust her with my heart...that is very sad...but that is reality for me..
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I am very unhappy in my marriage...I just feel she takes me down..
I do not trust her with my heart...that is very sad...but that is reality for me..
I am very sorry you feel this way.
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I can no longer trust my wife with my problems...I am sad...
I am now becoming aware of how damaged she is and how she
remains secret about her problems...she is damaged goods also...
I am damaged goods and have a harder time hiding it...but I no longer
want to hide my problems....I am a human being with problems...
I no longer believe that I have some mental disease....I am no longer
in the DSM....and I hope that I can sh--can my celexa...I am scared...
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thank you all my friends here on this forum for helping me...
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I feel so sad for all the friends and family and patients who have died by suicide...
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I am glad about something...
since my breakdown#3 I have seen myslf as a piece of crap..
well that is changing just a little...I am now talking more about
me being a human being with problems...


not a defective weak mentally ill slacker...
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