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Unread 09-11-2017, 03:33 PM   #1
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Default Depression used to be my unique challenge. Now I see it as never getting better.

Ok. So, I am coming to learn some things about depression, like that it is biological. And I feel though, that when I think of it that way, I don't try. Before, I kind of imagined it as this bad habit I had, that I needed to overcome, and it was like, my unique personal challenge, to work on. Now I'm just like "well, it's biological, genetic, things will never really change." I've stopped trying. And it feels awful!!! Specifically, I feel like I'm isolating myself from others, and I'm not doing the stuff that will make me feel better. Like clean my room, read, knit. Does anyone know how I can get some motivation or how to get myself to do things? I want depression to be my unique challenge again (not that I want it at all, but if I have it, I want to be able to have hope and deal with it constructively)! Help!
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I believe it is both biological and behavior. Your brain can affect your behavior, but there's also a ton of science that shows your behavior can physically change your brain.

I am living proof that it works. You can examine your beliefs about yourself and the world, you can question your thoughts so let go of the bad ones, you can decide what u want life without depression to feel like and you can create those feelings.

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Love this!!

I believe it is both biological and behavior. Your brain can affect your behavior, but there's also a ton of science that shows your behavior can physically change your brain.

I am living proof that it works. You can examine your beliefs about yourself and the world, you can question your thoughts so let go of the bad ones, you can decide what u want life without depression to feel like and you can create those feelings.

Do not give up! Hugs!
Thank you for this, Winterbritt! I am feeling more hopeful after just getting my thoughts out, and also seeing your response.
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Ok. So, I am coming to learn some things about depression, like that it is biological. And I feel though, that when I think of it that way, I don't try. Before, I kind of imagined it as this bad habit I had, that I needed to overcome, and it was like, my unique personal challenge, to work on. Now I'm just like "well, it's biological, genetic, things will never really change." I've stopped trying. And it feels awful!!! Specifically, I feel like I'm isolating myself from others, and I'm not doing the stuff that will make me feel better. Like clean my room, read, knit. Does anyone know how I can get some motivation or how to get myself to do things? I want depression to be my unique challenge again (not that I want it at all, but if I have it, I want to be able to have hope and deal with it constructively)! Help!
I feel the same way.
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Hi starrysky

Yes, there can be biological causes but don't underestimate situational causes too..........or triggers..........
And even with biological factors, sometimes there can still be some things you can do, if not to cure it completely forever, but to "smooth some of those edges" when things are hard..........so absolutely you keep on trying to defy it, I know there can be times when nothing you do can help (much?).........but keep it up, it matters, and real kudos to you in how you've been trying to defy it when you could so far!!!

But Winterbritt had a great strategy that may help there and it brought to mind CBT........and even without therapy there are lots of worksheets you can find online which could help with that.........

And maybe set yourself some achievable goals in some of those things you've found may help e.g. "I don't feel like it, but I am going to clean that half of my room tomorrow morning", reminding yourself that after that........you can rest, and if there are any other rewards you can give yourself after doing that??
So yes, maybe break tasks down into more managable steps............and thinking about the knitting.........would it motivate you more if you worked on knitting e.g. a scarf to pass onto a charity shop or homeless charity..........whatever things you have like that where you are..........perhaps a bigger sense of achievement with that........unless you have family/friends you'd rather do that for.........??
And keep reminding yourself of the "slightly better" feelings you've obviously felt in the past at times you've done some of those things.............

With others........if you don't feel able to socialise at times and you feel those connections slipping..........then even if you could send a brief text if you can..........just some sort of connection maybe??

So.......just some thoughts..........

But hang in there..........you already know that things can be/get better and you deserve that!!!
And lastly........again, real kudos to you in how you've been trying to defy it when you could so far!!!

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I often feel hopeless too I believe though, that in the worst case scenario, you can at least learn to cope with it and live a normal life, even if it doesn't disappear completely.
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I often feel hopeless too I believe though, that in the worst case scenario, you can at least learn to cope with it and live a normal life, even if it doesn't disappear completely.
I'm glad I'm not alone. Not glad you feel hopeless sometimes too, but glad You understand MickeyCheeky. I like your attitude, too. So true. Thank you
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