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Unread 06-19-2017, 12:54 PM   #1
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I deleted my facebook account because somebody who didn't know me that well brought up a painful memory from the past hitting me right in the jugular.
I have never offended this person, but on a night out they went past me and called me "s$%t" even though I had been in a relationship and never cheated for a very long time. Because of peer pressure I committed some silly mistakes.

Anyway. They put a picture up of a boiled egg appearing to be sick and underneath wrote sickie eggs. Now how on earth they managed to figure this out is beyond me. I remember I did say I used to go home at lunchtime for a bacon and egg roll but honestly. I did have a good few funny turns in primary. I didn't realise my mother never paid attention to egg expiry dates. In a way I am glad. Thanks, a%%hole you made me perfect
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I have nothing especially inspiring or comforting to say, other than to say I'm sorry. This post did remind me of a video I watched a ways back and I'll share it with you:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SdC7iBpD8Sk

I hope things get better. I know that after school was out of the way, I got a lot better from the bullying I endured.
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I knew someone who would bully online. He seemed to have no sense of boundaries at all. One day, I asked him why he did it. He said, "It's just the internet. None of it is real."

So I returned the favor one day, by posting a photo of us together that he did not want posted. It made him look other than the image that he wanted to portray. He got mad and asked me why I did it, so I replied as you could predict.

"It's just the internet. None of it is real."

Of course, he suddenly didn't see things that way and threatened me with harm if I didn't remove it. This was when I figured out that he was a Pathological Narcissist who views people as playthings in a world that is all about him.

I think that people bully online for a variety of reasons. Maybe they've lost control of their own lives, or they are depressed. Reasons aren't excuses.

I haven't used social networking for three years, and couldn't be happier. I highly recommend leaving it behind.
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I'm sorry you're having such a tough time. It's a good thing you broke off the pathway that he could use to bullying you. My daughter was bullied by cell phone for about 4 months and didn't wasn't to change her number so it was pretty rough.

I hope you'll continue not to let this loser push your buttons again.

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Ribena. red hair and brown K swiss. Mo-ped. Yellow dress. Boobs.

Yeah I think he forgot that what you say on the internet is still real and tangible.
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I knew someone who would bully online. He seemed to have no sense of boundaries at all. One day, I asked him why he did it. He said, "It's just the internet. None of it is real."

So I returned the favor one day, by posting a photo of us together that he did not want posted. It made him look other than the image that he wanted to portray. He got mad and asked me why I did it, so I replied as you could predict.

"It's just the internet. None of it is real."

Of course, he suddenly didn't see things that way and threatened me with harm if I didn't remove it. This was when I figured out that he was a Pathological Narcissist who views people as playthings in a world that is all about him.

I think that people bully online for a variety of reasons. Maybe they've lost control of their own lives, or they are depressed. Reasons aren't excuses.

I haven't used social networking for three years, and couldn't be happier. I highly recommend leaving it behind.
When I saw this thread title I came here to evoke similar condolences. How often times the bullies themselves are hurting inside - which doesn't make their actions anymore warranted, however, I think it should provide some comfort to be reminded that while they may be targeting you, they are only harming themselves. Of course this doesn't make it easier to "take the blows" so to speak, for some.

When I saw that you said you deleted your Facebook, I thought that was a great immediate move.

Like Dermald, who I quoted, I left social media about five years ago now. I only got an instagram this past year to exhibit art and try to establish an online presence to mingle and discover art and more through it. Social media is a great thing - the sense of community that it creates in unprecedented in history, but it can obviously lead to things like bullying.

I believe what the greatest thing is about forfeiting social media is the personal growth that naturally occurs. Every day is another chance to begin or continue on to what you always wanted your life to be. And as each day comes and you make the most out of it, those that meant harm to you in the past get farther and farther away.

At this point in my life, all the troubles I experienced growing up are just relative to the present, and when you can say you are content and your present is joyful, you cannot be anything but grateful for the past because it led up to this most recent day.

Best of luck to you, and I think it might be in your best interest to stay away from social media - surely a shallow root cause to many of society's mental issues.
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Some bullies "grow up" while some continue on with their senseless .......

I regret that anyone has had to endure the poison of bullies.

Bullies, in my opinion, are empty, petty, ......... people

I'm thankful that on pc bullying is usually not tolerated.

(Some online venues on the other hand.. )

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I knew someone who would bully online. He seemed to have no sense of boundaries at all.
Met an online bully for the 1st time not too long ago. I'm no professional, but this person must have some serious issues. At 1st seemed normal, but then the ego masturbation started.

Aggressively inquiring people about their private lives, lecturing them on what to do with their lives (eventhough she was a minor and admittedly didn't know what to do with herself), belittled and mocked victims of rape, domestic abuse and suicide, asked for free services, threw tantrums. A tsundoku, no surprise, hey that empty head needs ego boost.

She also collected males sexually attracted to her to provide support to hr social networks inqusition.
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Did they tag you in it? You could try reporting it as harassment.

Sorry you went through this. Bullying sucks. I've been cyber bullied, and it definitely isn't fun.
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No I wasn't tagged in fact. But I knew when the picture came up that it was directed at me. I had been drifting through my past for years as I was going to write a book and the picture instantly triggered what I had been trying to figure out.
Why this person went to so much effort is beyond me. A grown man with family. It was pretty obvious I was a shadow of my former self and didn't need anymore dissing
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