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Unread 04-19-2017, 08:39 AM   #1
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This might sound like a weird question but how low one has to go to get help or for others to recognise that this person is really suffering and needs help.

How depressed one has to be to be taken seriously?
When will peole stop with "It's the same for everyone". When will people stop trying to make one snap out of it and accept their pain?
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It depends on the people.. some realize it only when it's too late..
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Have you asked or are you waiting for this to be noticed?
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For me, I couldn't get adequate help until I was so far gone that I had plans on hurting other people to get ahead.

I finally went to the mental health center a couple of years ago because I was so desperate for help after having a falling out with a girl that I liked that I was honest with the therapist that did my intake.

I told him if I don't get some help now I will live my life as a rogue and screw people over to get ahead because I hate humanity and if people can't love and accept me, I will force them to and they will regret hurting me.

Oh and I called myself the "darkness incarnate" and told them how I worship death and other crazy B.S to further motivate them into action.

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I agree. The best thing I ever did was check myself in.
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It depends on who you talk to. My husband has been pretty supportive when I have a depressive episode. The crisis workers in the ER, not so much.
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I agree. The best thing I ever did was check myself in.
For some reasons this is not an option for me...
Also I somehow feel that I'm unable to measure the severity of my situation...
Also my mood is very changeable which complicates the assessment.
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For some reasons this is not an option for me...
Also I somehow feel that I'm unable to measure the severity of my situation...
Also my mood is very changeable which complicates the assessment.
"hospital" isn't an option for me either
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Have you asked or are you waiting for this to be noticed?
I think it's hard now for people not to notice that I'm depressed. But I live in a world where apparently people just ignore this.
I can understand them.
Like, "everyone is depressed".

I think it hurts that I feel that I'm not allowed to break down. My pain is invalidated.
Maybe I'm not allowing myself.

There are two types of reactions: either invalidation (x has it worse) or wanting to force me into "smiley mode". Both of them are painful.

I'm not sure what I want, I might have an actual issue with the whole "not being allowed to suffer" belief and that I have to do everything by myself (even though I dream of someone helping, I don't let them)

The only one I'd let to help me is my therapist but he also thinks that "I'm gonna be fine".

Now I'm fine. Yesterday night I was walking in the park drinking, talking by myself and thinking about ways to self destruct. So I don't know...
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The thing is almost no one knows about my self destructive acts...Only my T, he knows only vaguely though.
I wonder how much others share about these stuff with friends/ family. I just can't. Feels embarrassing. But somehow want people to notice...
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