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Old 02-16-2019, 01:47 PM   #1
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I hate the degree I am pursuing and I have one year left. I wish I could drop out and quit but that's not an option. I am a junior in College, and when I was a freshman I originally was a Medical Laboratory Science major (that I loved) but was talked out of by everyone I talked to and I regret it completely.

I have one year of this program (radiology) and I abhor it. I can't stand it and I wouldn't want to do it for my entire life, and to be honest I couldn't care less about advancing my career in this field with 'education' or 'research'.

Sorry. I am just resentful that I let myself get talked out of a career by others that I really wanted to do and I'm paying the ramifications for it. If I was to switch back to MLS, I'd graduate in 3 YEARS. .

I'm just resentful and mad at myself.
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I understand how you feel, NeedHelp04 I can relate to your struggles. I'm also not too sure about the career I've chosen. I just don't know what to do. I understand your pain very well. Please don't be so hard on yourself. Anyone can make mistakes. I'm here for you if you want to talk about it a little bit more. I'm so sorry, I know it's hard. Please don't give up. Is there anything we can do to help you? Please let us know. Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this
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Oh thatís a tough one.

Is switching back to your first love an option? Yes it would be another three years but you have your entire life ahead of you and two extra years might be totally worth it.

Is there a way that, if you finish your current program, you can use the knowledge and skills to branch out into something else...kind of use it as a stepping stone to something youíd enjoy more?

Iím not sure how old you are but I think itís ridiculous to expect 17 and 18 year olds to know what they want to do with the rest of their life. They say the average person will go through three major career changes in their life. Iím almost 45 and just went back to school last year. I didnít want to waste a tonne if money at 17 when I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life.

If you finish this program can you take a year off and go travel, or maybe look into opportunities in other countries?
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I seem to recall having replied to another of your threads on this subject? I'm sorry you find yourself in this difficult situation. When I was young, I had an opportunity to attend the Boston School of Music. Everyone said it was a crazy idea. So I attended a local 4 year state college instead. And eventually I went on to get a masters degree whereupon I spent my whole working life in a career I hated & also wasn't particularly well suited for.

What I'd like to suggest to you is that work takes up so much of a person's life that doing something you hate simply isn't worth it. It's really unfortunate you let other people talk you out of majoring in what you loved. Go ahead & be resentful & mad... for a short while. But then dig down & figure out how best to get yourself back onto a track you can love again. (As I once heard it phrased: "No matter how far you've travelled down the wrong road... turn back!) Here's a link to an article, from PC's archives, that is I believe apropos:

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I seem to recall having replied to another of your threads on this subject? I'm sorry you find yourself in this difficult situation. When I was young, I had an opportunity to attend the Boston School of Music. Everyone said it was a crazy idea. So I attended a local 4 year state college instead. And eventually I went on to get a masters degree whereupon I spent my whole working life in a career I hated & also wasn't particularly well suited for.

What I'd like to suggest to you is that work takes up so much of a person's life that doing something you hate simply isn't worth it. It's really unfortunate you let other people talk you out of majoring in what you loved. Go ahead & be resentful & mad... for a short while. But then dig down & figure out how best to get yourself back onto a track you can love again. (As I once heard it phrased: "No matter how far you've travelled down the wrong road... turn back!) Here's a link to an article, from PC's archives, that is I believe apropos:

So, You're Lost? The Advice You'd Never Expect

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Oh thatís a tough one.

Is switching back to your first love an option? Yes it would be another three years but you have your entire life ahead of you and two extra years might be totally worth it.

Is there a way that, if you finish your current program, you can use the knowledge and skills to branch out into something else...kind of use it as a stepping stone to something youíd enjoy more?

Iím not sure how old you are but I think itís ridiculous to expect 17 and 18 year olds to know what they want to do with the rest of their life. They say the average person will go through three major career changes in their life. Iím almost 45 and just went back to school last year. I didnít want to waste a tonne if money at 17 when I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life.

If you finish this program can you take a year off and go travel, or maybe look into opportunities in other countries?
Thank you! I am 21. I am so glad you told me how old you were that you went back to school. Thank you so much!!
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I understand how you feel, NeedHelp04 I can relate to your struggles. I'm also not too sure about the career I've chosen. I just don't know what to do. I understand your pain very well. Please don't be so hard on yourself. Anyone can make mistakes. I'm here for you if you want to talk about it a little bit more. I'm so sorry, I know it's hard. Please don't give up. Is there anything we can do to help you? Please let us know. Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this
Thank you! You're so generous and kind. I really admire how disciplined you are on helping others on these threads and forums. I really wish you all the happiness in the world!
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Life's too short to live it unhappily. OK, you made a mistake by listening to others rather than to yourself and doing what you truly want to do. So, you may pay a bit for it, but isn't it worthwhile being HAPPY?? Isn't your lifelong happiness more important than a mistake or the ramifications of it? So it takes two more years. You're young, I assume and have the time. As I said, life is far too short to be unhappy. Don't kick yourself. Resolve the mistake, move on and choose the path now that will make you happiest. Cheers!
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I agree that to be in a field you love is well worth great sacrifice!
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