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Old 01-12-2019, 12:03 PM #11
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I feel I want me. In life, some want me, and others don't. It is a mix. It is a big world out there.
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Do you feel that you are wanted? Or do you feel that you are not wanted, and maybe don’t even “fit in” anywhere?

I'm unwanted. I don't think there is anywhere for me to fit in. People are either coupled up or so in love with their own weirdnesses/addictions/jobs -- where are the nice people who just want to go to a movie or to get a burger--not a big production--just a quick outing for some diversion and pleasant conversation?

Something I have found particularly hurtful lately; a friend of mine has taken to suggesting through text that we should get together and when I have responded; I then don't hear back from her, and in fact usually find out later she has gone off and done something with her spouse or extended family. I understand she has a spouse and extended family--but if she isn't available I would rather she write "I thought about you today"; leave it at that, and don't get my hopes up that maybe we can have lunch together or go to the park.

I do volunteer work and that brings me into contact with people. But honestly; a lot of volunteer work is actually work; and I already work hard 40 hours a week. So I'm not chomping at the bit to take on yet another volunteer job besides the ones I have because I already know that is what it will be: a job.

I'm not sure why I was cut from the herd so early--but it looks like it was--and will remain, a permanent thing. Sorry if this isn't the answer you were looking for. But I needed to say that.
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Do you feel that you are wanted? Or do you feel that you are not wanted, and maybe don’t even “fit in” anywhere?




I feel out of place a lot but mainly when I feel that others are better than me, which is most of the time. I have only a few people that I associate with and they are mainly family. I think that people don't get me. I feel like they would rather not be bothered by my troubles and so they detach and that makes me think of how less I am than them. I hope this helps to answer your question.
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I don’t “fit in” anywhere in the “real world” either
You "fit in" in my world, Fuzzybear.
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Do I feel wanted?
I feel little.
I have conflicting evidence regarding others "wanting" me.

Do I feel not wanted?
I feel little.
I have conflicting evidence regarding others "not wanting" me.

Do I "fit in" anywhere?
I have clear evidence I do not fit in anywhere in the "real world".

Oh Rohag, I am sorry you feel this way. It's hard to feel sometimes--no, often, it is painful. You "fit in" in my real world.
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I feel unwanted and out of place and an inconvenience to other people .
That's me as well. For the most part.
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Do I feel wanted?
I feel little.
I have conflicting evidence regarding others "wanting" me.

Do I feel not wanted?
I feel little.
I have conflicting evidence regarding others "not wanting" me.

Do I "fit in" anywhere?
I have clear evidence I do not fit in anywhere in the "real world".

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Well, my mom told me that she never wanted kids, so there's that.

But actually when my depression is under control I don't struggle with feeling out of place. When my meds aren't working, I feel like no one wants me.
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I am trying to value myself more. And I remind myself daily that I am worth all the happiness in this world. you should also do that. It helps.
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Do you feel that you are wanted? Or do you feel that you are not wanted, and maybe don’t even “fit in” anywhere?



it varies, and depends on a lot of factors- my mood, what i'm doing that day, how I'm spoken too, etc

I'm defffenetely not wanted by my family. they have made that quite clear not only to me but to other people who they talk to

most friends I know, if they were to hold a secret meeting, would probably say something along the lines of.. well, she's so boring and she's so difficult. their's a lot more important things in life than dealing with her and listening to her complain

though when I'm having a good day, and someone is actually making me feel special, (which actually isn't difficult, you can touch my arm and I'd say it was special), I feel like the luckiest person on earth

but it's been a long time since I've felt anywhere near wanted. a long time indeed
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