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Old 03-13-2018, 12:32 AM   #31
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I find it helpful to imagine different ways the world could be. Afterwards I can scale down the version in my head, for instance I find it useful to say "**** it" to a lot of things and people I worry about. I also like to be honest about what feelings I am feeling. It frees me to name the feelings that are shadows behind the person I want to be. When I'm angry, that is a feeling that can really hide behind niceness for me. I am working on admitting what I want, this makes me feel the most free. I look at feelings as books in a library. I can take out any book I want and enjoy it.
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No, it's not stupid, it's an attempt to deal with something positively, so it's good. One thing I practise all the time though, is letting go. As soon as you notice the triggering thoughts - which activate the negative feelings - begin entering the mind, let them go, quickly[!] Focus on something else. Let them go as if they were a disease. They are a disease, my friend, especially if regulating your emotions is a real problem for you, like me. Things like mindfulness and meditation are useful tools for that purpose.
I definitely have a hard time dealing with my emotions and it's hard for me to let go. I'm trying to focus on what makes me feel good though.
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Old 03-13-2018, 03:54 PM   #33
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I'm socially isolated due to my symptoms and I'm in a bad place. I go out of my house twice a day.
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Old 03-18-2018, 07:14 PM   #34
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I won't necessarily say I HATE people, but I certainly feel much better when they are not around. True, there are people that I hate, but I don't constantly think about them or why I feel that way. Most of what I like to do most others don't, so I wind up by myself, anyway.
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Old 03-21-2018, 03:42 PM   #35
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I have had a great time hating people all my life, passionately and intensely and judgementally. It almost seemed a way I was trying to form a connection to them, for instance to my alcoholic mom, and guard myself at the same time. it didn't work very well either way. Lately, I have turned my feelings of hate or disgust back to myself, and asked myself which shadow of mine am I projecting on the person, or reacting to the person. For instance, I get really mad when my ex says everything is unfair and that he wants justice. When I turned the spotlight back on me, I realized I felt I have never had anyone in my corner to stand for me. Then I went further and discovered I haven't been standing for myself. Now I feel kinder towards my ex, and can hear underneath his complaining, that he feels no ne has ever stood for him. I am trying to make friends with the parts of me that weren't allowed when I was younger by my parents. Life will be more interesting and fun and the huge emotional charges will go where they belong, to comfort me as a small kid, wanting to belong but feeling I had to compromise what I believed.
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