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Old 05-01-2018, 04:39 PM   #1
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Sorry to whine, I am just feeling trouble settling my emotions in light of some good that has been happening.

Do you ever feel tentative about enjoying the good in your life for fear you might lose it?

I feel unworthy; undeserving. Instead of rejoicing and relaxing in the fact that I don't have any worries I am in fact worried. I expect something is going to change it all or that I will be 'found out' as undeserving and have this spot of goodness torn away from me.
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Old 05-01-2018, 07:19 PM   #2
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I use to feel that way until I realized that I deserve happiness too. (((((((HUGS)))))))
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Old 05-01-2018, 08:37 PM   #3
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I don’t feel undeserving but I worry that good things end due to death, illness, accident etc

Both I and my husband worry all the time that we will lose each other. I used to never be this way but TRIGER it changed after I lost my son in law. My daughter was on the phone with him at noon and he was dead at 1pm. It changed everyone’s perspectives on life.

It could all end in a moment. I try not to think about it but I still do and sometimes it stops me from enjoying something
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I used to feel that way—now I know that all I have is right now. All I control, kind of, is me. So, I live in THIS moment. In this moment, I am grateful for every good thing. Living in the n ow—has made all the difference.

I hope you find a way to enjoy the good…
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You are a good person and deserve happiness and should love yourself. Be your own best friend. It’s so easy to say this to someone else than it is to say it to yourself or allow it for yourself.
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Well bad things do happen to good people, such as Divine writes. It's a challenge to enjoy good times when experience tells us they often don't last long. I guess that's why we ought to enjoy them when we can - because they are rare high spots.
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Thanks. fast forward several days and the worry is dwindling.
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Thanks. fast forward several days and the worry is dwindling.
Unfortunately mine is getting worse.:gro uphug:
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That is your inner critic trying to take away your happiness. Tell him (or her) to knock it off; that you won't listen anymore.

We ALL deserve to be happy. Those little islands of sunshine come
all to infrequently, especially for us. Don't let them slip swap. Enjoy
life with every fiber of your being. When it goes, remember it. And
have faith that it will come again.
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Just try to be happy
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