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Unread 05-19-2017, 07:41 PM   #1
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Default Getting tired of being taken advantage of

Lately I've been having a hard time keeping quiet and keeping my cool when I feel like I'm being taken advantage by others. I used to be able to handle it better but it seems as if it's happening more often and so I get upset quickly. I can't hide when I'm upset anymore.

I had an issue with my boss and my schedule and I had to cause an issue because my boss was very unfair and gave others what they wanted an do got the leftovers. I have been there the longest by far. Then others make decisions for me without me knowing and leave information out on purpose. When I find out the real scoop through others then I have to speak up and address it. I have to explain how I had no knowledge of what was said by others because I'm left out of the loop.

This has happened to me throughout my whole lie. Now I feel like what do I have to lose. It is what it is. Unless I fight those battles then people walk all over me. I'm just tired of having to lead my life as if people are going to do me wrong and me having to gather evidence in case it happens. Lately I've had to use evidence to prove my case just to get what I'm entitled and what someone else is trying to take away from me.
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Unread 05-19-2017, 07:51 PM   #2
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Im sorry you feel that way. It's good you're being assertive and standing up for yourself. I hope it doesn't cross over into aggression or you might run into trouble. Best wishes...

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Im sorry you feel that way. It's good you're being assertive and standing up for yourself. I hope it doesn't cross over into aggression or you might run into trouble. Best wishes...

I've caught myself being angry. I had to step back and apologize to certain individuals. I felt like I lash out at times. I'm trying to control it.
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This has happened to me throughout my whole life.
Sometimes an 'issue' or life circumstance keeps reoccurring & repeating until it teaches us something really important... Eventually we learn and realize something which has a significant & lasting effect on our overall state of consciousness/awareness... I can't tell you what that is and answer that question for you - but I would encourage you to spend a lot of time contemplating what the 'message' is behind these types of circumstances continuing to surface in your life experience. It's like you're asking the Universe, "What is the important message here? What are you trying to show me?"... When you eventually find your answer - you'll also discover that these types of circumstances will no longer to manifest anymore...
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Same here, only I rather have no friends rather than being used. So I fight back or protest. Unless if there is something that I can used back from that person or I got compensation for that.

If you think you're right, do not need to apologize even through you feel bad about it. They may used that to using you.
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In order to have SELF-respect,one must never allow
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I can relate, I feel taken advantage of all the time. I've found that what helps is clinging to those few people that actually care about you, like really care about you. They won't take advantage of you ever. It's really hard to try and ignore people that are jerks and use you, but I feel like it's possible. Best of luck!
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Bluedove: this is so well said and I agree completely. If you allow it resentment and frustration will build up and before you know it you lost your self esteem.
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I think this is actually a pretty good thing - you're starting to stand up yourself, and also realizing when you're going too far. Kudos to you, hope things will improve soon
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