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Unread 02-16-2017, 08:55 PM   #1
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Okay well my adoptive mother has been like this ever since i can remember and its been getting worse now that my blood brother has been gone all these years so she cant make his life hell because obviously he isnt here. And i know some of you who've read my previous posts might be getting sick of this topic. So im sorry about that!
Anyways to make it quick her attitute towards me will be fake, annoyed, and completely oblivious to the fact i even exist. But then very occasionally she will smile at me and/or say something nice. I never can really figure out what i do during those times that makes it seem like she hates me. And she also ruins my relationship with other people. This one really hurts. Like my sister who used to be so close to me, and my brother who is gone (and mainly because of her cant have any contact with). She told lies about me and says hurtful things about me to people such as her mom/my grandmother! She tries to keep my nephew away from me and glares at me like she wants to kill me whenever im around him. I asked her why and she simply says she doesnt trust me. Now i cant really be myself around him or even show i care about him because of what shes done which is really sad... My brother was the one who messed things up between them, so i guess she has to take it out on me. Im really tired of this… And im really tired of feeling like a bad person when im around her. I just wish she could open her eyes some and let go of whatever it is shes holding on too… jealousy, anger, hurt… I dont know!
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Unread 02-16-2017, 09:18 PM   #2
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I sympathize. My own mother exhibited some mean behaviour too.

I suggest you talk to your school guidance counselor. As for diagnosing your mother, that is not what we do here. In the meantime seek out an adult you can talk to. If you have no one at school (are you in school? I'm not sure) then even your family doctor is a good start. Most countries have 1-800 help lines for young people. You would be able to talk with someone there.
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Yes I am in school but the problem is Im homeschooling and the last time I went to the doctor was years ago. Thank you for your response.
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I'm sorry your mother is so mean to you.. are there any help lines for teens in your country/area?
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i am sorry to hear you mom is not nice to you. she probably needs help herself!!
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my adoptive mother has been like this ever since i can remember and its been getting worse now that my blood brother has been gone all these years so she cant make his life hell because obviously he isnt here.
It is difficult to perceive that your problem is not your "adobtive mother" but the treatment, abandonment or loss of your early childhood mother, mentor or carer.
Even before psychology was developed it was known from fairy tales how wicked the Evil step mother could. However the actual problems of mental illness depression and criminality was caused by the loss of abandonment and ill treatment of of by the biological mother.
Today, most of night terrors and bad dreams in children are caused by fear of abandonment or loosing the mother figure.
Your best option is to have a heart to heart talk with your adoptive mother and learn something about the reasons why you needed to have one.
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I'm sorry your mother is so mean to you.. are there any help lines for teens in your country/area?
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Thank you Mickey you're a good friend. Im sure there are lines to call, but i dont want to call them. Im afraid that things will turn out very bad if i do. And i dont want to seem like im this poor kid or anything…
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Hi,

It is difficult to perceive that your problem is not your "adobtive mother" but the treatment, abandonment or loss of your early childhood mother, mentor or carer.
Even before psychology was developed it was known from fairy tales how wicked the Evil step mother could. However the actual problems of mental illness depression and criminality was caused by the loss of abandonment and ill treatment of of by the biological mother.
Today, most of night terrors and bad dreams in children are caused by fear of abandonment or loosing the mother figure.
Your best option is to have a heart to heart talk with your adoptive mother and learn something about the reasons why you needed to have one.
Yes I think having a heart to heart talk with my mom would be the best thing but i dont know how to approach her. She'll act like nothing is wrong and stuff... Last time i tried to open my feelings to her she rejected me and told me she didnt care. I dont understand.

Oh and I dont really have any hate to my biological parents wherever they are... Well maybe my dad yes, because from what I've heard he wasnt a nice guy. I can see from my brother how he probably was abusive and angry. But that's not the point. I was too young to be mad or remember them. So i dont hate them.
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i am sorry to hear you mom is not nice to you. she probably needs help herself!!
I think you are very right… Sadly my brother and her messed each other up deeply. So now i guess she cant trust because of that. And its not like I'm a perfect child either.
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