I keep having these problem thoughts.

LifelongLoner · 11-10-2018, 11:41 AM

I keep having these repeated thoughts of people intentionally harming me. I have them over and over. Many times I tried to suppress them but they returned / repeated so often that it was useless. I've tried challenging them, e.g., that thought was not true; it's just a thought, etc. But they don't stop. I am constantly fighting them. Now, I just let them run their course. I got tired of the battle.

I have been harmed by so many people. They seem to enjoy it. Their mistreatment has ruined my life. I mostly isolate because it's safe and much less stressful. I don't know what else to do. I cannot seem to find acceptance anywhere.

Pfrog · 11-10-2018, 02:24 PM

Welcome, LifelongLoner ... Sorry to hear of your struggle and I hope you find a sense of belongingness here at PC ... It really has helped me as I, too, have a very difficult time being able to trust and find acceptance out there in the real world.

Fuzzybear · 11-10-2018, 03:38 PM

Welcome to pc LifelongLoner

Skeezyks · 11-10-2018, 03:55 PM

I'm sorry I don't think I know what to tell you about your life experiences & isolation other than to suggest that this is, perhaps, something it might be worthwhile delving into with the help of a mental health therapist. There is such a thing as a "highly sensitive person". Perhaps this would describe you? Here are links to some articles, from PsychCentral's archives, that talk about what it means to be a highly sensitive person & what to do about it:

What Makes a Highly Sensitive Person?

Do You Feel Emotions Deeply? These Tips Might Help

10 Tips for Highly Sensitive People

How Highly Sensitive People Can Shield Themselves from Negativity

Help for Highly Sensitive People in Big Cities

https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-gift...dium=popular17

You wrote that you used to fight thoughts of people wanting to harm you.

But now you just let them run their course. Actually this is a pretty wise way to handle thoughts such as these. From my perspective, I'd have to say you're on the right track!

There is a practice that is referred to as compassionate abiding. It is my go-to practice for handling all manner of intrusive thoughts, anxiety & other mental health concerns. Here's a link to a description of the practice:

https://mindsetdoc.wordpress.com/201...e-abiding-101/

Perhaps compassionate abiding could be a good addition to what you're already doing.

11-10-2018, 11:41 AM	#1
LifelongLoner Member LifelongLoner It's the same old, same old. And, I do mean old! Member Since: Nov 2018 Location: Long Island, NY Posts: 74 My Mood: Mentioned: 0 Post(s) Tagged: 0 Thread(s) 63 hugs given	I keep having these problem thoughts. I keep having these repeated thoughts of people intentionally harming me. I have them over and over. Many times I tried to suppress them but they returned / repeated so often that it was useless. I've tried challenging them, e.g., that thought was not true; it's just a thought, etc. But they don't stop. I am constantly fighting them. Now, I just let them run their course. I got tired of the battle. I have been harmed by so many people. They seem to enjoy it. Their mistreatment has ruined my life. I mostly isolate because it's safe and much less stressful. I don't know what else to do. I cannot seem to find acceptance anywhere.

11-10-2018, 02:24 PM	#2
Pfrog Veteran Member Pfrog has no updates. Member Since: Aug 2017 Location: USA Posts: 529 Mentioned: 6 Post(s) Tagged: 0 Thread(s) 405 hugs given	Re: I keep having these problem thoughts. Welcome, LifelongLoner ... Sorry to hear of your struggle and I hope you find a sense of belongingness here at PC ... It really has helped me as I, too, have a very difficult time being able to trust and find acceptance out there in the real world.

11-10-2018, 03:38 PM	#3
Fuzzybear Wisest Elder Ever Fuzzybear has no updates. Member Since: Nov 2002 Location: Cave. Posts: 77,399 (SuperPoster!) Mentioned: 5 Post(s) Tagged: 0 Thread(s) 48.4k hugs given	Re: I keep having these problem thoughts. Welcome to pc LifelongLoner __________________

11-10-2018, 03:55 PM	#4
Skeezyks Apparition Skeezyks has no updates. Member Since: Oct 2015 Location: L'Etoile du Nord Posts: 16,641 (SuperPoster!) My Mood: Mentioned: 2 Post(s) Tagged: 0 Thread(s) 12.4k hugs given	Re: I keep having these problem thoughts. I'm sorry I don't think I know what to tell you about your life experiences & isolation other than to suggest that this is, perhaps, something it might be worthwhile delving into with the help of a mental health therapist. There is such a thing as a "highly sensitive person". Perhaps this would describe you? Here are links to some articles, from PsychCentral's archives, that talk about what it means to be a highly sensitive person & what to do about it: What Makes a Highly Sensitive Person? Do You Feel Emotions Deeply? These Tips Might Help 10 Tips for Highly Sensitive People How Highly Sensitive People Can Shield Themselves from Negativity Help for Highly Sensitive People in Big Cities https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-gift...dium=popular17 You wrote that you used to fight thoughts of people wanting to harm you. But now you just let them run their course. Actually this is a pretty wise way to handle thoughts such as these. From my perspective, I'd have to say you're on the right track! There is a practice that is referred to as compassionate abiding. It is my go-to practice for handling all manner of intrusive thoughts, anxiety & other mental health concerns. Here's a link to a description of the practice: https://mindsetdoc.wordpress.com/201...e-abiding-101/ Perhaps compassionate abiding could be a good addition to what you're already doing.

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