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Old 01-12-2018, 10:50 PM   #1
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Has anyone cued into this as being something that you might struggle with?

It's a "story" of how I got here, kinda complicated, but this is where I find myself right now.

Here's a review that I read that really lays it out there for me.

It's a pretty in depth review.

If you decide you want to read it, grab a snack and find a comfy spot. It captured me as I started reading it.

The thing that really gets me, is the attachment that an infant gets from a mother that affects the whole person from that point on.

It talks about "angry faces" and I really can't think of a time that I saw my mom's face as a source of comfort and regulation for myself.

I've tried to go back and find it but there only angry and mean disciplinary faces of stearness and punishment.

Self regulation is such a really big thing for someone who struggles with dissociation and things flying out of control, with no way to rein it in. It wasn't mirrored to me and I didn't know how to do it myself.

That's why I have such a hard time grounding myself and centering myself without the help of my counselor.

I can be such a wreck/mess when I get to his office. I can try to do it myself and I just can't. With him talking me through it, it's so easy. It's like he is the calming place that I needed then.

It's no wonder that I've come to find myself the mess that I am.

Well, ya know, I take that back.

It's no wonder that I've come to find myself in the realisation of where I am.

That's better, word wise.

I just wanted to share the review and ask if anyone else has encountered this "phobia of attachment".

It is eye opening and understanding it opens doors for truth and healing.

It would feel really great to hear other opinions, if you are inclined.

I would really enjoy talking about this and the other aspects of it, if anyone would like to contribute.

Thanks for hearing me!
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Old 01-18-2018, 12:52 PM   #2
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Absolutely, yes! I crave attachment with my t but fear it even more (even though it is a safe attachment). It's an awful bind to be in.
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