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Unread 06-19-2017, 01:51 AM   #11
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Weighing in late on this one. I couldn't come up with an answer yesterday. I think cure is a strong word and it's not feasible for most, however, based on everyone's unique situation, their outlook differs.

I guess my struggle with the word cure is, how do we know what we would be like if we hadn't experienced the neglect or abuse we did as children? I for one sense that I was meant to be an outgoing, extroverted type, the center of attention. In reality, that will never happen. CPTSD has stolen that from me. My hope is to learn to manage it the best I can and do the best I can with my life.
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I think that for me, getting better would mean no longer letting what happened define me. I think it would mean I can make my own decisions about what I want for my life, not just living for justice and always feeling defeated and broken. I think it would mean feeling like I am stronger than it, not the other way around.

I know that it can be extremely debilitating and creates so many barriers and takes away your freedom. I know that no one is the same after a major trauma. But I do believe it's possible to grow stronger than it and live life on our own terms. At least, that's my hope.
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I think that for me, getting better would mean no longer letting what happened define me. I think it would mean I can make my own decisions about what I want for my life, not just living for justice and always feeling defeated and broken. I think it would mean feeling like I am stronger than it, not the other way around.

I know that it can be extremely debilitating and creates so many barriers and takes away your freedom. I know that no one is the same after a major trauma. But I do believe it's possible to grow stronger than it and live life on our own terms. At least, that's my hope.
That sounds reasonable and an awesome plan. Totally agree with you.
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you think a person chooses a disability?
For me this is about the definition. A pianist may have a disability if they loose a finger tip, for someone else this may not have a big impact on their life. Someone with a broken leg may be temporarily disabled.

I think "labels" can be helpful to a point, but for me, thinking I am "disabled" would mean not trying to make things better for myself, to lose hope. I do not want to be defined by that label. However accept for others, this may be helpful to them.
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I think that for me, getting better would mean no longer letting what happened define me. I think it would mean I can make my own decisions about what I want for my life, not just living for justice and always feeling defeated and broken. I think it would mean feeling like I am stronger than it, not the other way around.

I know that it can be extremely debilitating and creates so many barriers and takes away your freedom. I know that no one is the same after a major trauma. But I do believe it's possible to grow stronger than it and live life on our own terms. At least, that's my hope.
Thank-you fior sharing this. That is exactly what I want for myself.
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For me this is about the definition. A pianist may have a disability if they loose a finger tip, for someone else this may not have a big impact on their life. Someone with a broken leg may be temporarily disabled.



I think "labels" can be helpful to a point, but for me, thinking I am "disabled" would mean not trying to make things better for myself, to lose hope. I do not want to be defined by that label. However accept for others, this may be helpful to them.


I am talking about a work related term.
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do not listen to people who say things like: Everyone, Always, Never...

there have been recoveries, i know because i am one. i worked HARD to rebalance my brain chemistry without psych meds, which are just another imbalance, and to restructure my belief and thought systems, so i could train my mind to be more positive. if you want to do the work, you can certainly improve to the point where life is bearable....

p.s. my pdoc says i'm "in remission", cause he doesn't believe in recovery, either.... but i haven't taken anything but a valium in over 15 yrs. , and that is partly for a sleep disorder and restless leg syndrome (which could probably be improved by more exercize ).
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there's nothing wrong with psych meds and success means being able to support yourself, however it doesn't change the fact you have a disability, you've just learned to adapt . Having a disability is not that bad. If you don't have one don't sweat it.
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there's nothing wrong with psych meds and success means being able to support yourself, however it doesn't change the fact you have a disability, you've just learned to adapt . Having a disability is not that bad. If you don't have one don't sweat it.
If it's a 'disability' then why aren't those that are diagnosed with it automatically approved for disability benefits when they apply?It's because it's a disorder,with varying degrees of symptoms and problems for each person that has it,just being diagnosed with it doesn't make it a disability.

There's a big difference in a disorder and a disability.Some people with PTSD(or cPTSD) do become disabled from it,unable to function,unable to work while others have or do find ways to manage their condition and are able to be high functioning and work a job.Each person is different.

I was told after quite a few years of therapy that I still have constant,chronic PTSD(cPTSD),but I don't consider myself disabled,I have learned to live with my disorder and constantly work to manage my symptoms.I am not considered disabled by any MH professionals,I have an illness that I will always have.No different than any other illness,such as high blood pressure or diabetes that can be managed but not cured.

I'm sorry if you have been disabled by PTSD,not everyone is though.

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If it's a 'disability' then why aren't those that are diagnosed with it automatically approved for disability benefits when they apply?It's because it's a disorder,with varying degrees of symptoms and problems for each person that has it,just being diagnosed with it doesn't make it a disability.

There's a big difference in a disorder and a disability.Some people with PTSD(or cPTSD) do become disabled from it,unable to function,unable to work while others have or do find ways to manage their condition and are able to be high functioning and work a job.Each person is different.

I was told after quite a few years of therapy that I still have constant,chronic PTSD(cPTSD),but I don't consider myself disabled,I have learned to live with my disorder and constantly work to manage my symptoms.I am not considered disabled by any MH professionals,I have an illness that I will always have.No different than any other illness,such as high blood pressure or diabetes that can be managed but not cured.

I'm sorry if you have been disabled by PTSD,not everyone is though.
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