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Old 12-02-2018, 04:14 PM   #11
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Old 12-08-2018, 07:20 PM   #12
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Well we live in a society where people would pay somebody $60-100 per hour to hire somebody to cuddle with them so there being a market to rent families isn't surprising at this point.


It's pretty sad that such services are needed. That being said, I would gladly buy a family or pay a woman to cuddle with me if I could afford it since I can't get my needs met any other way.
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Sending hugs to everyone who's feeling lonely
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Well we live in a society where people would pay somebody $60-100 per hour to hire somebody to cuddle with them so there being a market to rent families isn't surprising at this point.


It's pretty sad that such services are needed. That being said, I would gladly buy a family or pay a woman to cuddle with me if I could afford it since I can't get my needs met any other way.
The rent-a-hug service starts at $10.00 per hour. What a bargain! Wonder if they give out coupons once in a while? I'm being sarcastic, but if $20.00 gave me 2 hours worth of hugs, it would be very tempting. Although, knowing me, I don't think it would feel good to me, since it would not feel genuine to me, regardless of the provider's intentions.

The motivation and intention behind a hug is what matters to me, and this is something I can feel. There is a big difference between an obligatory hug and a heartfelt/compassionate hug.
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The rent-a-hug service starts at $10.00 per hour. What a bargain! Wonder if they give out coupons once in a while? I'm being sarcastic, but if $20.00 gave me 2 hours worth of hugs, it would be very tempting. Although, knowing me, I don't think it would feel good to me, since it would not feel genuine to me, regardless of the provider's intentions.

The motivation and intention behind a hug is what matters to me, and this is something I can feel. There is a big difference between an obligatory hug and a heartfelt/compassionate hug.

What is a "genuine" hug though? I don't think such a thing exists.


According to my experience, even a significant other hugging or cuddling with you typically does so with a hidden motive. Said motive could be wanting a favor or to make up for an argument or another reason entirely.


At least hiring somebody to fill your needs is predictable and gives you a degree of control. If the person judges you than you can simply fire them and move on. If a SO judges you than you can't do anything about it except argue with them or leave them which only opens you up to being hurt further.


Sorry, I just don't believe that unconditional love exists. The only being that can come close to loving a human unconditionally is a dog.


So yeah, as soon as I can afford to, I plan on hiring a professional cuddler quite liberally. I should be able to make decent enough money within the next year if I don't screw anything else up so when that happens, I'll gladly pay an extra several hundred or more dollars a month to have my needs met in a way that doesn't put me at risk of being hurt further.
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The rent-a-hug service starts at $10.00 per hour. What a bargain! Wonder if they give out coupons once in a while? I'm being sarcastic, but if $20.00 gave me 2 hours worth of hugs, it would be very tempting. Although, knowing me, I don't think it would feel good to me, since it would not feel genuine to me, regardless of the provider's intentions.

The motivation and intention behind a hug is what matters to me, and this is something I can feel. There is a big difference between an obligatory hug and a heartfelt/compassionate hug.
i wonder if the huggers do this out of compassion for others? and might that help one get over the feeling that it isn't genuine? if one is hurting and there is no relief, it might help a little. that being said, a therapist i once saw used to offer hugs after each session. but it did seem a little obligatory to me.
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What is a "genuine" hug though? I don't think such a thing exists.


According to my experience, even a significant other hugging or cuddling with you typically does so with a hidden motive. Said motive could be wanting a favor or to make up for an argument or another reason entirely.


At least hiring somebody to fill your needs is predictable and gives you a degree of control. If the person judges you than you can simply fire them and move on. If a SO judges you than you can't do anything about it except argue with them or leave them which only opens you up to being hurt further.


Sorry, I just don't believe that unconditional love exists. The only being that can come close to loving a human unconditionally is a dog.


So yeah, as soon as I can afford to, I plan on hiring a professional cuddler quite liberally. I should be able to make decent enough money within the next year if I don't screw anything else up so when that happens, I'll gladly pay an extra several hundred or more dollars a month to have my needs met in a way that doesn't put me at risk of being hurt further.
i hope that you will feel a genuine hug one day. i tend to give them when i meet someone who has suffered a loss because i have been there and can feel their pain.
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