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I've been emotionally neglected as a child. And am feeling the pain as an adult and it's excruciating... My family doesn't want to help me they leave me to figure it out on my own. Like this is why I dnt feel good enough for anyone or anything like I feel like I dnt deserve to live. I feel like I dnt deserve to be happy. It's hard to try and change myself if I'm thinking I'm not good enough for the world. I dnt love myself b3cause my family doesn't show love for me., they negelect me so I learned to neglect myself. I dnt even care abt myself cuz no one cares abt me. I'm tired of feeling so negelected and hating myself. I just want to end my life because that's what my family will want anyway
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Hi Lexy,

I'm sorry that you're experiencing so much pain.

You grow up thinking that your parents and family are supposed to love you forever and unconditionally, and when the reality is the opposite you feel disappointed and hurt. But just remember that nobody gets to choose their parents. It's pure chance. You don't have to be like your parents and don't have to feel like you need them in your life just because they had sex and produced you as an offspring. Toxic people are toxic people - don't feel like you're obligated to love and be loved by your family just because of biological circumstances.

If you have loving, caring parents, that's great. You're one of the lucky ones.
If you don't, I know it's not fair but you have to accept that and be your biggest supporter.

Love yourself so you won't need anyone else to.
Live your life so you can say you made it all on your own and be proud of that.

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Childhood neglect is hard to cope with. Please know that you're a wonderful person and absolutely worthy of love, despite what your subconscious might be thinking.
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I've been emotionally neglected as a child. And am feeling the pain as an adult and it's excruciating... My family doesn't want to help me they leave me to figure it out on my own. Like this is why I dnt feel good enough for anyone or anything like I feel like I dnt deserve to live. I feel like I dnt deserve to be happy. It's hard to try and change myself if I'm thinking I'm not good enough for the world. I dnt love myself b3cause my family doesn't show love for me., they negelect me so I learned to neglect myself. I dnt even care abt myself cuz no one cares abt me. I'm tired of feeling so negelected and hating myself. I just want to end my life because that's what my family will want anyway
Don't let them brake you. This song usually helps me when I'm having the same thoughts and feelings like you. Die another day. (Never underestimate the power of music!) Don't give up.
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Hi Lexy,

I'm sorry that you're experiencing so much pain.

You grow up thinking that your parents and family are supposed to love you forever and unconditionally, and when the reality is the opposite you feel disappointed and hurt. But just remember that nobody gets to choose their parents. It's pure chance. You don't have to be like your parents and don't have to feel like you need them in your life just because they had sex and produced you as an offspring. Toxic people are toxic people - don't feel like you're obligated to love and be loved by your family just because of biological circumstances.

If you have loving, caring parents, that's great. You're one of the lucky ones.
If you don't, I know it's not fair but you have to accept that and be your biggest supporter.

Love yourself so you won't need anyone else to.
Live your life so you can say you made it all on your own and be proud of that.

This is so true! Thank you!
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Don't let them brake you. This song usually helps me when I'm having the same thoughts and feelings like you. Die another day. (Never underestimate the power of music!) Don't give up.


thanks for sharing the song.

you know usually I'm not much of a madonna fan but that song has a good message
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I've been emotionally neglected as a child. And am feeling the pain as an adult and it's excruciating... My family doesn't want to help me they leave me to figure it out on my own. Like this is why I dnt feel good enough for anyone or anything like I feel like I dnt deserve to live. I feel like I dnt deserve to be happy. It's hard to try and change myself if I'm thinking I'm not good enough for the world. I dnt love myself b3cause my family doesn't show love for me., they negelect me so I learned to neglect myself. I dnt even care abt myself cuz no one cares abt me. I'm tired of feeling so negelected and hating myself. I just want to end my life because that's what my family will want anyway


try to remember it's not your fault.

some families just.... well, arn't good with their kids, I guess

I try and remember that when I think about all the abuse my mother put me through
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thanks for sharing the song.

you know usually I'm not much of a madonna fan but that song has a good message
I use this song to remind me of the growing relationship I have with my therapist. Entre Nous means 'between us' in French. It helps remind me that my T is there all the time.

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Has anyone heard from this girl? I'm a bit concerned...
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How are you doing, lexy92?
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