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Old 02-28-2018, 05:43 PM   #21
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Interesting thread.

I am an only child. My mother never should have married. My father was my parent, not her. She never really left her family of origin. I am sure she was treated poorly by her mother.

I asked her why she ever had a child(my parents were married for nine years before I was born). Her response, “it is part of life”. unfortunately my father died when I was young.....my mother has so many BPD & Narc traits. I knew she would have preferred a male child. And very few whom would meet her, would ever guess she treated me/did not treat me in the manner it actually occurred.

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Old 04-06-2018, 10:54 AM   #22
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I’m an only child. I’m not wanting to talk about all the crap they threw at me right now
(I doubt if.....)
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Old 04-06-2018, 03:11 PM   #23
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Being an only child has it's own set of issues & one is that there are no other children to get any input from about what is going on. Doesn't always happen if huge age differences but know being an only child left me to figure out everything on my own with the dysfunctional parents I had.
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My mom screwed up way before I was even in the picture by getting together with my dad. My mom married her ****ing rebound guy and ignored major red flags because my mom has low self esteem. My dad has been full of **** his whole life and honestly I don't know how my parents managed to stay together for 11 years anyway (my mom literally dealt with my dad's ******** for 7 years before I came around).

Anyway, my mom couldn't have children of her own for medical issues, so she adopted me and gave my dad an ultimatum. I however didn't find out I was adopted until I was 24 (I'm turning 26 next month, so yeah, not that ****ing long ago).

My dad was a dead beat and a ****** excuse for a husband and dad, hell as a person. And my mom was overbearing, domineering, manipulative, and neurotic. Honestly, I probably didn't stand a chance to began with.
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Old 04-15-2018, 04:29 PM   #25
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My mom told me she never wanted children, but apparently my Dad did so she had three of us. She told me this when I was around 10. I don't think it's something you should ever tell your children even if it's true.
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My mother went wrong when she got pregnant with me.
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My mother went wrong when she got pregnant with me.
I was just thinking the same thing though Iam finally glad she did but it took over 54 years, good therapy & an awesome new living environment to get there....also parents are no longer living...so I am an orphan on my own creating my own new world & loving it.
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Oh,yeah,they were BORN!
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My father, a loathsome character, married my mother before she could even speak English. He found out the hard way that she was mentally ill with a severe rage problem.
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It would take me all day long. Let's just say they should not have had children.
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