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Found this article helpful. Really describes what I go through trying to survive my own brain.

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Thank you for the read Do those with BPD mean to Hurt Others? I did think I was alone but reading that and seeing it use words I would use to describe myself eases some guilt.
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But what can you do when you loved one are not aware they are sick and they do not want to go and ask for help. I am seeing here coments of people that struggles with BPD but they are aware of this and of the fact they suffer and they are not mean..... The syntoms of my loved one are horrible and I am aware how much he may suffer after ..... but he doesn't want to accept he is not mean and evil as he says and he doesn't want to search for help....
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Its just the opposite I think. The hardest part is knowing you are thinkng irrationally and lashing out, but you cant stop yourself. Then when you calm down the guilt and regret sets in. You look back at the way you behaved and are humiliated with embarrasement. It takes years of hard work to be able to control this destructive thought cycle.
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But this is if you try to work with it and ask for help. What if you are in this circle but you never want to get out as bad as it gets (((
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But this is if you try to work with it and ask for help. What if you are in this circle but you never want to get out as bad as it gets (((
You're still not doing it on purpose, but things aren't likely to get better until/unless you ask for help - at least in my experience.
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we dont mean to hurt others...at least i dont. its a viscious cycle...ive gone through dbt and cbt and therapy and i write and talk to myself and try to prepare myself for THAT MOMENT when i just turn into a total asshole...and way too often, none of it seems to work. or somethings just not clicking. i try so hard not to lose it and then i just do and i cant reel it back in. the guilt and the self hatred are horrible. i cant even comprehend how much ive hurt my partner...i wish i had an instruction manual on how to get through conflict because i am so, so bad at it.
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That was a nice read. Iíve read some horrible things about bpd and it makes me sad. Of course we donít mean to hurt people. We just have such extreme emotions and pain that we donít know how to deal with it all.
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