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Unread 04-21-2017, 06:45 AM   #21
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Default Re: how do you find self-acceptance and self-forgiveness?

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I've read from every section in the spirituality and self help category..Believe me, I've read too much.
But now I need something else. I think I need to express myself (been repressing and avoiding life by default). But now, I am here. I need to face some darkness I think. That is also part of self expression. I don't know. Will take that nap. But my also cry and might relapse with some things. Showing "I'm okay" as a facade is killing me. Sorry...
You're taking the right path by confronting it and not avoiding it. The question is, "How?". You're acknowledging and already sown the seeds of overcoming this hurdle. If I can show you how, I really want to show it to you.


This was how I felt when it was back to rebuilding everything from scratch.

I expected myself to fall back and cry, curl up in bed, and sometimes really in a bad state of despair. Sure, those happened multiple times, but however, it was a bullet I had to bite in order to reinforce my beliefs that temporary relapse will come and go.

Last Thursday, I went clubbing with my colleagues. They were focusing on putting up an impression of a tough drinker. I had a few shots and let myself dance to the music in order to offer myself that freedom to express. Everyone thought I was drunk and began laughing at my jokes, but in fact, I was still thinking clearly. It pondered to me, I can add value to people's life by making them laugh or connecting to their frequency instead of constructing a good image of myself all the time. I don't have to always feel the need to be accepted, I can be the sun and offer people warmth.

Meanwhile I crashed today, was an agonising afternoon to endure this abrupt crash. At least I can thank myself I saw it coming and already planned to sleep earlier tonight.
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I've read from every section in the spirituality and self help category..Believe me, I've read too much.
But now I need something else. I think I need to express myself (been repressing and avoiding life by default). But now, I am here. I need to face some darkness I think. That is also part of self expression. I don't know. Will take that nap. But my also cry and might relapse with some things. Showing "I'm okay" as a facade is killing me. Sorry...
Everything thought you think has power and everything (!) starts with a thought. What did the books say about this?
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You're taking the right path by confronting it and not avoiding it. The question is, "How?". You're acknowledging and already sown the seeds of overcoming this hurdle. If I can show you how, I really want to show it to you.


This was how I felt when it was back to rebuilding everything from scratch.

I expected myself to fall back and cry, curl up in bed, and sometimes really in a bad state of despair. Sure, those happened multiple times, but however, it was a bullet I had to bite in order to reinforce my beliefs that temporary relapse will come and go.

Last Thursday, I went clubbing with my colleagues. They were focusing on putting up an impression of a tough drinker. I had a few shots and let myself dance to the music in order to offer myself that freedom to express. Everyone thought I was drunk and began laughing at my jokes, but in fact, I was still thinking clearly. It pondered to me, I can add value to people's life by making them laugh or connecting to their frequency instead of constructing a good image of myself all the time. I don't have to always feel the need to be accepted, I can be the sun and offer people warmth.

Meanwhile I crashed today, was an agonising afternoon to endure this abrupt crash. At least I can thank myself I saw it coming and already planned to sleep earlier tonight.
Yes. It's flowing. Just learning about this. It's the rhythm and energy that connects and heals. It doesn't freeze or runaway. It flows as it's needed.
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Everything thought you think has power and everything (!) starts with a thought. What did the books say about this?
Yes but you can't control your thoughts. Sometimes thoughts just happen. Depression happens. Happiness happens. Everything is connected. We like to slice reality up to pieces, take out a slice and label it starting point. And I guess that's how our brain works. It needs a handle. Most books choose a slice and name it "the solution". And that boldness and sureness pisses me off. In the same time, how else to live? We need to believe in something. I can't anymore. All are just slices. Though, again, this is probably a great way for one to lose their minds...But not sure I can stop now. And maybe it's not even that bad...
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