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Old 06-27-2013, 12:28 PM   #1
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Default Best jobs for someone with BPD?

I have a LOT of trouble keeping jobs. I'm intelligent and a hard worker, but for some reason, I just can't seem to make it out there in job land. I don't understand how "office politics" work and I'm not good at socializing. I lost my last job about a month and a half ago. I was told by my boss that I wasn't happy there and that I should find other work. Gosh, really? I got excellent scores on my 6 month review and I am just quiet and keep to myself. They let me go shortly after that.

I just got another job (after much searching) just 2 days ago. I start on July 6th at Lowes as a cashier. It's hard to always be at the bottom. I want to work my way up and do well. I would love to make enough to support myself without help from anyone. I get stressed easily and I don't multi-task well. I think I will do fine at this job. People at this location seem very nice.

Is having difficulty holding down a job normal for those with BPD? What jobs have been best for others here?
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Old 06-27-2013, 12:37 PM   #2
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I have a LOT of trouble keeping jobs. I'm intelligent and a hard worker, but for some reason, I just can't seem to make it out there in job land. I don't understand how "office politics" work and I'm not good at socializing. I lost my last job about a month and a half ago. I was told by my boss that I wasn't happy there and that I should find other work. Gosh, really? I got excellent scores on my 6 month review and I am just quiet and keep to myself. They let me go shortly after that.

I just got another job (after much searching) just 2 days ago. I start on July 6th at Lowes as a cashier. It's hard to always be at the bottom. I want to work my way up and do well. I would love to make enough to support myself without help from anyone. I get stressed easily and I don't multi-task well. I think I will do fine at this job. People at this location seem very nice.

Is having difficulty holding down a job normal for those with BPD? What jobs have been best for others here?
Holding down a job has been very difficult for me, with the exception of the last one. I worked as an aide with special needs kids for a school district for nine years until last June. It sounds like the Lowe's position may be a good fit for you. If it doesn't work out though, you may want to consider a temporary employment agency.

Many times, larger companies will hire someone through a temp agency when they are actually looking to hire for a particular position. That way they can screen a prospective employee, and if they don't seem to be a good fit, they tell the agency that the assignment has ended. Not always, but more than once, I was hired for Fortune 500 companies via this method (Oxford Health Plans, Lockheed Martin, and especially the banking industry). This can also work to your benefit. If the group of coworkers that you would be working with are just a bunch of catty, nogoodniks, then you will know this before you accept a position there.

I wish you the best with your new job, but it never hurts to have a plan B.
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Old 06-27-2013, 12:42 PM   #3
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While I've not been officially dx'd with BPD, I do see many of the traits in myself so I thought I'd respond.

I currently have a work from home position and it works very well for me. Like you, I also have great difficulty with office politics and communicating with coworkers. My job is only part time and as a freelance agent there is always the possibility that my contract will not be renewed for another year but I love working from home. No office politics, no need to try and fit in, no need to deal with coworkers.
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It's great that you got a new job! Congrats
Myself, I couldn't keep a job for more than 6 months... most were about a month. 99% of my jobs were in retail. In the beginning I would be all into the job... so focused, doing more than my job description and then wham! I just couldn't keep going in, I'd realize (whether real or not) that I was being taken advantage of, start calling in, or just not showing up all together.
Course I have more than just BPD... so I don't know what part of my illness play what part in this issue.
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currently working at the very first job i ever got, at a shoe store. started back in March 2009 and worked for a year and a half before moving out of town, where i worked at a warehouse for a month until they fired me. then i was jobless for six months, during which my daughter was born. then i worked at a grocery store from May-November 2011, then moved back to work at the shoe store. had my son July of last year, took six months off for him, and started working at the shoe store again just before Easter this year. planning on staying here until we move out of state probably in November. then i'll try to get a bank job or another small-store retail job. i'd work in the warehouse with my husband but they have a strict policy on family members working together so that's out.

my dream job would be working in a bank. air conditioning (shoe store's ACs are all out and it's like 90 degrees outside so we're inside baking...), only having to talk to people from behind a desk, not have to worry about helping them find stuff...and making some REAL money instead of minimum wage ******** (it's $7 here).

then, in the meantime, i'll get a degree in accounting and make even more money with that.

my drive to live comfortably seems to overcome any bpd/avpd symptoms i have. it also helps to think that the person i am at work is the person i want to be, instead of the stressed out crazy person i am at home.
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Old 06-27-2013, 04:10 PM   #6
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Thank you all for your responses. It's tough out there to find a job and on top of that, my own issues make it harder. It's good to have others that understand and have experienced the same things.

We'll see how it goes. Low stress is a big key for me. My last job was in a call center and I hated it. Everything I did was timed and I couldn't even go to the bathroom without asking. Hopefully this time will be better.
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I really have a hard time with jobs myself.
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Two things I've noticed about the job market lately.

1.Many more postings for people to work in service oriented roles. Even if the job is not titled as "Customer Service" it's usually in the description.

2. Many job postings make it clear that they expect employees to have a moderate to high level of interaction with co-workers. Does the term "team player" ring bells for anyone?

More and more employers are looking for extroverted (or at least outgoing) type A people who don't mind others playing in their sandbox. This unfortunately excludes a lot of workers who have something valuable to offer but who don't have the ability or desire to provide customer service or work closely with others. Also, trying to force oneself to fit into a job like this usually ends in loss of job. It is very difficult if not next to impossible for an introverted person or one who is struggling with social or communication issues to simply fake it every day they go into work.

Don't know if this is only in the U.S.A. or if other parts of the world are experiencing the same sort of shift in the world of work. I believe that here in the U.S.A. this phenomena may be contributing a bit to the numbers of unemployed people.
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i just get overwhelmed, much like jadedbutterfly described. I am good for a while, then I just can't make it in anymore. I think my depression and ptsd play more into it, but if you take the bpd into account, I guess the self-harming and suicidal thinking make it hard to show up. I end up quitting before I'm fired most of the time though.
I'm decent with socializing, but only with a select few people. I rarely make lasting friends at a workplace, and even those I tend to screw up eventually. I just don't feel like I'm worth much, so I don't push to hang out with people.
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I think working at something one would like to work at and would enjoy/do well in would be the best job for someone with BPD; one would like the actual subject/work so that might cause less "friction"/problems that might trip one up emotionally? Just working at any old job one can get without trying to get close to what one would "secretly" like could cause disappointment and maybe set one up to fail because it wasn't right to begin with.

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then i'll try to get a bank job or another small-store retail job. i'd work in the warehouse with my husband but they have a strict policy on family members working together so that's out.

my dream job would be working in a bank. air conditioning (shoe store's ACs are all out and it's like 90 degrees outside so we're inside baking...), only having to talk to people from behind a desk, not have to worry about helping them find stuff...and making some REAL money instead of minimum wage ******** (it's $7 here).

then, in the meantime, i'll get a degree in accounting and make even more money with that.
DreamAd; why not get a job in a medium to large accounting firm as a receptionist when you move (should pay at least the $7, but depending on the town could pay $8-$10) and go to school at the same time to study accounting in an accredited online program; the accounting firm (if you liked them) would jump at moving you up their ladder to better jobs as you learned more (administrative assistants earn $15-$30 an hour) and you'd have "built in" people to ask for help if you did not understand some point in your school work.
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