[raging vortex]

it's official.

tonight I went to the fair near me for a while- and it was to tick something off my bucket list, to go on a ride, my very first ride

well, after struggling up the steps to the ride (their were quite a few high steps), I found I was too fat to go in it

I mean- I got in the seat, (just about), but the bars wouldn't come down

height of humiliation

but it proves just how bad I've taken care of my body.. or I think it does anyway

[TheLonelyChemist]

I weight 100kg and I am just seventeen. Everyone tells me I am fat. Even I think I am too fat sometimes. HOWEVER,


1) Some girls still smile at me in college. And in the "I like you" way, of course, that doesn't mean they will dump their boyfriend for me, but I am still attractive.


2) It doesn't really matter whether you're fat or not. What matters is how you treat others at the appropriate time. Ever since I was a child I was bullied for being fat but I didn't develop dysphoria.


3) And it is not your fault you've dysphoria.



Acknowledge you are "fat", that doesn't stop you from being a good and valuable person. I cannot list all the good, fat people I have met in my life who are much more important than my lean teenage friend without getting in trouble, however, being fat isn't a bad thing at all. Sometimes it can even make you attractive.


Remember, even actors aren't all too fit.

I wish I had the right words because your post hurts my heart. I wanted to offer a hug. That doesnt capture it, but I hope you know you have friends and support here.

[raging vortex]

Originally Posted by LostMyMuchness

I wish I had the right words because your post hurts my heart. I wanted to offer a hug. That doesnt capture it, but I hope you know you have friends and support here.

thanks

yes.. this place feels like home to me

so many wonderful people

(btw, I just figured out who you were. nice to see you again. )

[avlady]

i used to be anorexic as a teenager, now i'm 57, had midage spread, now i gained 50 pounds in the last 2 years and i even like myself better when i was skinny. i will try to lose some weight, but i don't feel obsessed like i should.

[mwaxy]

Good people love people for who they are.



Weight can change if you want it to change, weight is not you.


Much love and thank you for your post. I have an eating disorder and I can understand to some extent.

[Sporty McDaniel]

I used to have this girlfriend. She went 300 lbs. I'd known her for a long time and we had mutual friends. I thought she was awesome, actually. I stopped seeing her, but it wasn't because of her weight...

[WishfulThinker66]

I am far healthier emotionally since I accepted I was never going to be svelt again. Sure I've put on weight - much of it due to medications. But I remain active. I've come to the realisation that this is just the way I am, I have a boyfriend who thinks I am beautiful this way, and that my wieght is no indication of the person I am.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm so sorry, raging vortex I think you're a wonderful person. And I'm sure the people who love you will be able to see that, regardless of your physical appearence. Please don't give up. If you're feeling down, always remember that we're much more than our own body. Not to mention that you're still in time to take care of your body and reduce your weight - if you want to, of course. You're still in time. But please remember that you don't have any obligation to do so. What matters is what kind of person you are, and I think you're a wonderful person. I always appreciate your posts here. Sending many hugs to you

[whispershadow]

raging we all love you here, being "fat" don't make you a bad person