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Old 12-14-2017, 02:36 PM #1
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Hi everyone, I'm not sure if this is technically right for this subforum, but this is the closest I can find...

I've struggled with my appearance all my life, and while CBT has helped this along with my depression and anxiety, but I still struggle daily. I don't mind my body so much, it looks ok. I really do not lile my face at all though. I feel like it's way too androgynous, my eyebrows are too thick, and my nose is a little too big. I just feel like it makes me look manly and ugly. Makeup helps, obviously, but I can't really just change the shape of my face obviously. How can I feel more confident about myself??? Everybody says I look nice but I feel disgusting.
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Have you thought of getting your eyebrows done at a salon. Eyebrow waxing is pretty cheap.
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hope you start feeling better.

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I sort of have a similar problem with my body. Eventually decided to have cosmetic surgery. It helped out in one way but caused other issues which I am dealing with now
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Take care of your skin -- drink water, wash your face, moisturize, wear sunscreen. Brush and floss your teeth twice a day. Search Pinterest or Tumblr for new ways to do your hair and makeup. Go to your local salon and have an aesthetician show you how to do your eyebrows. Wear fun jewelry. Practice taking selfies with different filters and lighting until you have some you are happy with.

Obviously this is very far from a cure, but they are healthy habits and proven self esteem boosters. I hope trying a few brings you a little relief.
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Hi everyone, I'm not sure if this is technically right for this subforum, but this is the closest I can find...

I've struggled with my appearance all my life, and while CBT has helped this along with my depression and anxiety, but I still struggle daily. I don't mind my body so much, it looks ok. I really do not lile my face at all though. I feel like it's way too androgynous, my eyebrows are too thick, and my nose is a little too big. I just feel like it makes me look manly and ugly. Makeup helps, obviously, but I can't really just change the shape of my face obviously. How can I feel more confident about myself??? Everybody says I look nice but I feel disgusting.
If you don't have BDD, what the others suggested may help. If you do, it may not. I think the key question is whether you really feel you look disgusting when everyone else perceives your face as normal. If you have BDD, the more time you spend worrying about your face, the worse you'll get.

Bddfoundation has a lot of useful information on the subject. While BDD and OCD have many similarities, such as compulsive mirror checking or door lock checking as a means to reduce anxiety, people with OCD typically know the door is probably locked, whereas people with BDD are usually convinced they really look ugly.

I hope this helps, and most importantly, that you'll feel better about yourself soon!
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