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Unread 03-20-2017, 02:18 AM   #1
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i literally dont know what i did they dont even know i am bipolar! i told them once that i was in the hospital and ever since then they wont speak to me i must have done something wrong though i just dont know what.
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How long has it been since you have spoken with them?
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i messaged them over a month ago and they havent replied
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Maybe they missed the message. You should reach out again and ask how things have been going. Maybe call if you have their numbers.
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the message says "seen" they did not miss it and i did try contacting them again just yesterday. i think they are mad at me but i dont know why
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Well, if that is the case, I say concentrate on staying healthy and developing a new circle. They do not have to know your dx to be your friends. Real friends would be supportive.
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Well, if that is the case, I say concentrate on staying healthy and developing a new circle. They do not have to know your dx to be your friends. Real friends would be supportive.
i guess i just wish i could know why.
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I have to speak from my experience. Between the years of 2012 and 2014, my mental health was very unstable. In addition to that, my husband had decided that he had other interests outside of our marriage. I was in counseling, trying to hold a job and appear stable to the outside world. I withdrew from hanging out and was pretty depressed/mixed. The PTSD diagnosis came first. Then the bipolar diagnosis. My friends didn't know what happened. When I finally came out of my fog, they said our friendship grew apart because I stopped reaching out to them. I was confused. Telephones work from both ends. I thought to myself, if I stopped doing the things that I used to do, why didn't they check on me? One of the friends that grew distant was one that I had known since I was 5 years old. It was heartbreaking. So in addition to grieving my marriage and a newfound diagnosis, I had friendships to grieve. I came out of it on the other side with two new friends who know everything. One has even been to a pdoc appointment with me (probably saved me from a hospitalization). Maybe you will get answers. Maybe they will be sufficient. Be prepared do recieve the outcome. The reality is still this. . . if they are really your friends, they won't care. Sometimes people need a break, but friends can tell each other that. Good luck!
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i guess maybe i should just ask i guess asking couldnt hurt.
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I lost a bunch of friends during a bad depression after college. They were some of my best friends. and yeah I know I was probably weird and not much fun and maybe didn't reach out as much, but I agree- why didn't they call and see what was going on with me??'
It still kind of hurts bc I was friends with all of them and introduced them to each other and they basically stayed friends with each other and excluded me.
So I know how it feels to feel like u have lost people close to you and that it is somehow your fault even through u didn't do anything.
I agree- why not call them out on it and actually ask. Even if the friendship doesn't stay at least u would feel like u did everything u could on your end. Good luck.
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