[Improvepersonality]

First time posting here. So please excuse if any mistakes. I am suffering from huge fear of meeting with people. I am avoiding everyone and feeling shy if i meet people. Not able to communicate properly, Most of the time i stay alone i avoid family functions. I don't enjoy a company of people, i just dont get involved. I make everyone else uncomfortable in the group. I really do not know how do i overcome this fear of talking with people. Day by day my situation is becoming worse. Can someone give me some advice of how to overcome this? Please help me.

[Hoasis]

Welcome to the forum my friend. Its small and not much activity, but at least we are in this together! I too fell the same way. I never relax amongst other people, always waiting for those uncomftable situations to arise. I think too much, analyse too much. But regarding your question I really have no idea. Personally I dont think there is a way of fixing it if you actually have avpd. Personality disorders is a part of our personality, unfortunately! Dont know your age but you could try talking to a counsellor or therapist?

[Delightful Dingbat]

I too have avpd. I dislike crowds~parties~new jobs~confrontations~family gatherings, even restaurants sometimes!! I used to liken myself to the phrase 'painfully shy' but now I've had enough time and experiences to know I just avoid these things bcuz it makes me uncomfortable. Of course no one understands & they come up with all sorts of reasons~think I should JUST GO, and I'll enjoy myself once I'm there, but I know better!! Makes it real tricky to keep yourself ok and your loved ones happy too

[pinkdiva42]

i am exactly the same way and i could have written both of your posts. I cannot go around people no matter what. and I want to get better but i have been like this my whole life. People cant tell me just go to this function and i will feel better because i wont, i will be uncomfortable to the point of going crazy or tears if i try and go into a social situation. I am 42 years old and i dont want to be like this all of my life but i dont see how to break out of this life long cycle. Can anyone please help me or tell me what steps i can take? I am seeing my therapist on the 18th of this month.. I need support from this group please can someone reach out to me and help me?

[Fuzzybear]

I would like to think that “personality can change” but don’t ask me how

I know the literature states the opposite... I’m not a fan.

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[Purple,Violet,Blue]

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[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Purple,Violet,Blue

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